How To Stop Self-Shaming and Overcome Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD)

Self shaming and the feelings of shame are extreme and excessive in a person with BPD. They are overwhelmingly strong. So thank you for talking about the matter.

"Even Broken Crayons Still Color" Wow, that one hit hard with inspiration

I always feel like everyone else is BETTER than me, and then when it comes to light that someone isn't, I'm shocked and really angry with how incompetent THEY are. Also how can I care about myself if no one else does? I've always been angered by the notion that I have to be the one who cares the most about me in order to survive.

I feel deep shame for minor things because of bpd , people ask why I say sorry so much. I think I go through depressive episodes too and that is when the self shame kicks in to an almost unbearable level

Because of the BPD, it makes us easy prey to bullies as kids and adults. People don't understand nor care to . But they're quick to point fingers at us for problems.

I don’t know if you get told this enough Dr. Fox but I appreciate all the work you put into your practice, how much you care for people with bpd and how many helpful resources you give to us to help ourselves. Also with lack of money it’s seriously such a help to us all. I recently bought your card deck and have been trying to work on that every night. Keep doing what you’re doing ❤

The amount of work it takes to overcome these things feels overwhelming, but it's nice to hear them brought up in a manner that makes them seem manageable

This is gonna be painfully difficult but I'm here for it because YOU Dr. Fox appear to be the only well-educated person on BPD on the planet. "Mental Health Treatment" nowadays is abhorrently inadequate insufficient and counterproductive.

When you become the brunt of jokes, sometimes you fire back. Stand up for yourself.

I feel so grateful to be living in the day of YouTube because this kind of thing is so helpful to myself and I would be a lot worse off not having this daily help. There’s so many videos online nowadays that would’ve cost a lot of money to get the information back in the day. Thank you so so much!!! Looking forward to this one, too!

I was just recently diagnosed with BPD. Ive had deep internal shame about who i am as a person my whole life. I feel irreparably damaged as a person. As a result i am a perfectionist and push myself to perform beyond my capabilities.

For me, this is the most dangerous component of the disorder. Thank you so much. I really appreciate that you were going to address being in invalidating atmosphere as well.

I spend all day trying not to believe myself I'm building the skills ❤

This channel has been such a huge part of my healing journey ❤️

I wish other pple in our lives understood this concept. No one wants to feel like this. It's very difficult

I was diagnosed a year ago although it is mild and manageable but this video showed up on my feed and it's been one of the hardest things to me to work on. My self doubt guilt and shame often take over it's so overwhelming,, thank you for this video

About feeling incompetent. Many years ago, I wanted to move from my place (I was living with a roommate at the time). I found an apartment and I found friends to help me move. I did my absolute best to tell nobody so that my parents wouldn't know so they wouldn't come to help me. I wanted to do it by myself to prove to myself that I'm not a complete idiot and I can move by myself. I was very anxious and unsure of myself but I wanted to do it anyways. My parents still found out afterwards and wanted to help, and criticized my choices and my behavior. I know it may sound good that they wanted to help, but it really isn't. Help is supporting someone, not doing everything for them so they become crippled. I was angry that they came to help. I didn't ask them to. I felt invaded. I just wanted to do something completely on my own as an adult for christ sake.

Doctor, I was diagnosed with bpd and bipolar. Losing a child is the most terrible feeling for anyone...but for me, as a borderline, it's been unbearable for years...my grief has lasted in such an intense feeling for almost 14 years. My daughter passed away when she was 14 at the end of 2009...I tried to commit suicide twice. I feared losing my daughter and it happened... I feared losibg my daughter even after my own dearh seeing her from the other side and being unable to avoid it...and it happened before me..I failed .. I can't find peace... thanks from Brazil ..

It's almost funny how I find myself clicking on your BPD videos out of curiosity, being convinced that "this behavior is nothing like me" and when Dr Fox rephrases the title within the first minute of the video my jaw drops as I recognize myself in the description.

Severe ("low-functioning") BPD here. I'm many bricks short of a wall when it comes to socializing. I was constantly evaluated as kid in school. Maybe they thought I was on the spectrum? I never understood or cared. My parents had low hopes about me for decades since. I think it's all normal, but everyone has been saying how concerned they are. I try to see it from their point of view. The "I don't know" near the end is me. I keep getting told that I'm not "getting it", but I don't know what "it" is. 18:50 is very true, but life itself has standards and expectations, though. Everyone around me are sort of resigned that I may never be independent and live normally as most people do. Their concern now is how I'll keep on living like this at some sort of very diminished capacity. Without support, I'm destined for homelessness or something. I don't know. The days just keep passing. I've been going through DBT for two years and I can tell the therapist and my family are beyond frustrated.