The Narcissism Doctor: THESE Toxic Patterns Are Signs You're Dealing With A Narcissist

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The loss of yourself when you’re in a narcissistic relationship is so sad

When they keep getting angry at you for no reason , that is a BIG SIGN to go !!

The name they had for it before narcissism was EVIL

Dr Ramani saved my life from a gaslighting, physically abusive narcissist. I knew something was wrong with him, I assumed it was ME...then I came across her on YouTube and she described what I had been living. It took me a couple of years to prepare to leave...my spirit had been so crushed, he stole who I was...he beat me down so far I didn't think I deserved much. Dr Ramani turned my light back on, understanding it wasn't ME , gave me the courage to leave. I planned, I saved $$$, I built my self confidence back up and left!!! THANK YOU for saving me!! At 70 yrs old I am free to live my remaining years in peace.

I am a survivor. My motto is “Don’t look back, you are not going that way”.

The longer a person is in a narcissistic relationship, the longer they have to abandon themselves. Whew! That right there!! 🎯🎯🎯

I’m shamed by my family for being too nice and friendly, they see my empathy as the problem and tell me to basically change who I am. When in reality I just need to set boundaries and discern who my kindness goes to. Really needed to hear this.

Thank you, Jay for having me back on your podcast!

It is painful. You don't trust your own thoughts. You think you are so faulty because you have become worthless the gaslighting is real. You become convinced that you are unloveable.

Often times, it’s not about forgiving the person, but rather it’s about forgiving yourself for putting yourself in that position.

“This thing dismantled me brick by brick. I was really well put together when I met this person.” 100% 😔

That's so true. You think "why the hell was I so nice to him/her?" All you did for them and only got hell back...

“ repeatedly forgiving a repeat perpetrator, actually harms the forgiver”. Well this is good clarity! Thank you.

Wow!! Empathy as a trauma/survival response!! That resonated with me for sure. I’ve tolerate so much bs in the name of empathy!!

I got out of a 13 almost 14 year “relationship” with someone who’s this exact way. The feelings I felt were exactly this. I abandoned my entire self. I was a shell. I’m now with an amazing man who consistently treats me amazing, who is validating, who truly cares about me and supports me. They are out there!! Do whatever you have to do to leave. Even if you have kids(I have 1 with my ex) it’s hard but it’s worth every moment!

Dealing with narcissistic parents that tormented you, abused you mentally and physically is something else man. I pray for everyone who's going through this to go through and stay strong💪♥️

TRAUMA BOND. Its like STOCKHOLM SYNDROME.

I remember that loss of identity so clearly when I left my narcissistic husband. I had no idea of who I was anymore. Before that relationship I was always someone who loved clothing and dressing well, so I took myself off to Topshop (still in my twenties) to treat myself. I remember looking around thinking "what do I like? who am I? What is my style?" I really had no idea. I felt completely lost, like I had lost my whole identity. It took years to get myself back; and now I am so sure of who I am, and happy with who I am - more than most. I think when you have gone through this and done all of the painstaking work (that takes years) you actually end up with a stronger sense of self than most.

38 years married to one. I wish I had known this way back then. Thank you for trying to educate people before they have to live through HELL