Here Are 3 Ways Narcissists Take Advantage of You

They exploit financially and emotionally.

Those unmet needs definitely play a huge role in your development. I was 15 when I made a bet that if my mother and stepfather would look up for only a moment, they’d see me overdosing in the kitchen right in front of them. If they caught it, they did in fact care about me and they’d rescue me. They never looked up or noticed. I called a friend in panic after I overdosed and she called 911. The paramedic spoke life into me and encouraged me to not give up. Years later, I am 39, happily married with 3 kids, am a therapist helping others heal, and am no contact with my narcissistic mother and my step father. No more exploitative guilt trips. Hard to let go, but the way your life improves is 1,000 worth it. Love yourself enough to let go.

They also use shaming accusing you of ridiculous things. They will just start random fights.

Always a hidden agenda with narcissists. When I look back now, I can't even come up with a redeeming quality about him just as a human being. Sad, but true.

You learn to stop telling people what you like, knowing it can be used to reel you in.

The more they know, the more they will have to hurt you... So.... painful..... Thank you Dr Ramani for pointing it out...

How validating to hear her say that they try and get you to share your volnerabilities and then call you cold when you don't. I'm glad I listened to my inner warning voice.

"Never outsource the work of your soul." Wow, I didn't know I needed to hear that today until you said it. Thank you, Dr Ramani!! ❤

My former employer, a really nasty "family" company, set up a weekend with a life coach who asked everyone to share their deepest secrets. They wanted me to go, but I bowed out when no one could tell me what the weekend would entail. No one shared any specifics, but I was advised that the stories were traumatic to share, and traumatic to hear. So glad I passed on that.

They pretend they're a good friend....it's diabolical.

Yup after 13 years I the slow learner fool finally see the patterns now. First of all if your married to a narcissist you aren't allowed to have needs. I don't look for anything anymore an fine with it. Why because my happiness belongs to me.

Intrigued by the idea that the relationship can mimic a healthy relationship for a while. My observation is that sometimes it doesn't go upside-down until a key event has happened, often marriage or the birth of a child. In my first marriage, it got only got really weird after we got married and I left him. He apologized, promised to change, and was quite different until our child was born. Then, it got really crazy when I tried to leave, he said threatened to do whatever it took to take my daughter away. I let myself be intimidated and stayed another 15 years. He couldn't take my child at that point, but he ruined my reputation and cost me a dream-job career opportunity. 25 years later, now 65 years old, happily remarried and living far, far away. You can heal. <3

“ Detective “ and “ con” rings a bell. Twice.

A narcissist will attempt to make all problems your fault; they will tell you they love you dearly and will be exploiting you while they do it. That is not love

Growing up with a narc mother. She knows most of my weaknesses and trauma because she caused them. But she doesn't know as much as she thinks. She can try to trigger me all she wants, put me down, guilt me, shame me and then play nice, like nothing ever happened. All i need to do is tell the truth... and she wouldn't want any of the past coming back up.

I recently got in contact with a family member. During our first video chat conversation, the number of questions they had for me was like a firing squad of twenty-one questions. Every time I shut them down on one question, they had another ready. NOW, I know how to play the game now. I didn't give them ANYTHING, and I could tell they were getting enraged by that. I put this family member in their place at least three times without logic and by being calm and collected, as I usually am. Just by having that one conversation, I've PROVEN TO MYSELF that I can be as closed off as they are. They don't like it because I used to be their MAIN SORCE of supply until everyone told me to F off.

Dr. Ramani I've watched your videos for about 3 years, validating and life changing! My life experiences has been with a narc sister and enabling mother. I'm a people pleaser, and moved out of state before realizing how bad it was. My heart and prayers go out to those of you with narc partners. Thank you Dr. Ramani!

I am extracting myself from an excruciating relationship. This was hard to listen to because it is exactly how I was caught. 36 years later, I am no contact and digging into how I got to the place I was. I am fortunate to have found an excellent therapist to help me.

I just discovered that my big brother is a narc, he is 8 years older and always tries to minimize my life experience to make his higher, always gives those condenscending compliment... And very very good at detecting my insecurities... Very dangerous for me sadly

Happy belated birthday Dr. R. You’ve saved me in so many ways. I know I did the work but you gave me the knowledge. YOU ARE A GEM 💎