Strengths you gained FROM your narcissistic relationship

Ill say it again .dr ramani is the best thing that has happened to me.

Anyone who continues to stay in this type of situation and "celebrate" the years of marriage, just know that it WILL NOT GET BETTER if you stay. Narcissists get worse as they age, so things will just continue to spiral. 💯💯💯 Just keeping it REAL.

I could keep watching Dr. Ramani’s teachings for hours and hours. I learn so much. Grateful to this precious doctor. 🙏🏻

My one year anniversary away from my VN spouse of 28 years. Take Dr. Ramani's advice and take the year off to do the deep dive on yourself. You deserve it!

I used to think that I am so weak and not at all resilient but after listening to this, I realize that I was wrong about myself. In the 12 years of being abused by my narcissistic ex, I have indeed displayed a tremendous amount of resilience. How did I not see this in myself sooner?

Its been so lonely. Im glad you talk about how unfair it is, even if we are kind and resilient. I dropped so many balls because I was young and didnt know so much. ❤

Thank you for this brilliant video. Dealing with narcissism gets so exhausting, particularly if you had a narcissistic family. You have to soldier on and use what you have learned to deal with it.

I have always gotten back up. Learning about narcissism from you changed my life. At 56 I am rebuilding my life for what I hope will be the last time and I plan to enjoy what time I have. No more people pleasing. Im cautious when meeting new people but thats okay. Better safe than sorry.

The videos you’ve made lately have HIT THE nail on the head! Again, this video is spot on for how relatable it is for me! 😮 The last relationship broke the straw on the camel’s back, and I have evolved into a person I never thought I’d ever become. I’ve become strong, discovered deep love for myself. It is indeed a shame I had to learn this through after years of abuse.

I bought your latest book, "it's not you." I've been reading it and realizing, of course, the abuse and the toll it has taken on me. I used to be such a confident person, but abuse that is consistent, chips away. I struggled with radical acceptance for years, not wanting to believe that this was my story, but when I started to realize what the abuse was doing to me and how utterly unfair it was to continue to allow them a right (?) to do this to a person who is just trying to live their life free from the drama and, more importantly, trying to be a good person for myself, I had to come to terms with how I saw myself rather than how I saw them. They weren't changing, I needed to. That is radical acceptance for me. I hope I keep learning, keep growing and continue on this healing path. I hope that for every person who looks at themselves and asks, "Is this me?" According to Dr Ramani, NOPE, it's not. Let the healing be about you. Let their behavior be about them. Best to all

Narcissists are very generous when they're handing out side orders of grief.

I just left a toxic/narcissistic work environment! The 1'st month away was alone time, just clearing the brain fog! Refocusing on health and wellness was a start in the 2'nd month. 3'd month in I found the Dr. Ramani videos and my path to healing had begun! I love meeting people and connecting with them but it's a process to get back there. Thank you Dr. Ramani for making this process much easier!

I can relate to the person you referenced. At age 56, I am finally getting rid of the last of many, many narcissists in my life. In a couple of years, I can physically relocate far away. I'm am more optimistic and happy than ever in my life. This video describes me so well. As a side note, I'm a rebel. Saying "no" without reprisal empowers me and spurs me on.

I was about 23 months old when gaslighting an narc abuse started. I am 68 now. It’s been a long journey. I feel like you are telling my story. Constant change and thank goodness educated on the narcissist. Words will never explain of how helpful you have been in educating me on the narcissist! A life saver! Peace and Love

“It’s resilience…. With a huge side helping of grief.” Wow, I felt that 😢

I am such a person and thanks to Internet. I find out why my life was so difficult. One of the advice was say goodbye, disconnect all negative persons and take a brake for at least a year. It gives you peace and time to understand what happens in my life

I'm glad you made this video, it reminds me of my transformation from a nobody to good home, honest wife, $75k biweekly and a good daughter full of love ❤️

The whole process is indeed about growth. Excruciatingly slow and painful growth. But make no mistake: there's no growth staying in the relationship, regardless of the type of narcissist you're dealing with. None. No matter how many excuses you can come up for the Narc (trauma, controlling mother, addiction, feelings of inadequacy, etc) Narcs don't have enough empathy to care about anyone but themselves. Don't mistake "use" for "care". Discernment means seeing that. In the Narc or in anyone.

You are truly amazing. Thank you for loving us so much and for reminding us how crucial solitude is to our healing. God bless you, Dr. Ramani!💜☮✝☮💜

So, glad you posted this. I'm this post! Very resilient, flexible, and adaptable always figuring it out. But through therapy and religion, I'm good for the most part and Thank God everyday for not being bitter and angry but forgiving. ... Always learning, improving myself so as to not feel the insecurities of the past. Calibration and discernment is ongoing😕 and because of this post I realize necessary. Please continue to provide such great content!!!