How Waiting Until Marriage Affects Our Marriage

My boyfriend and I are waiting until marriage. Neither of us are virgins.. but we decided to do wait with one another. It’s been such an awesome challenge and joy so far.

Omg, near the end when Daniel was saying not to wash down how special your wedding night actually was, was the most beautiful thing ever, just had to say it.

Talking to a friend the first time about struggling in a relationship and she said that during engaged encounter when the priest was asked if wanting to have sex with your fiance was a bad thing he said, "If you don't want to rip the clothes off your fiance right now then you probably shouldnt be here." and it has always stuck with me, just that they are natural desires to have.

I couldn't agree more! My husband and I waited till our wedding night, we were both 27 and virgins. Our wedding night was so beautiful, being able to enjoy the amazing gift God has given in giving us intimacy. Communication is so essential. Boundaries and continually talking about those boundaries as our dating relationship moved to engagement were so key to keeping our relationship pure. We were long distance so it felt even harder cause we didn't get to see each other often. Now 4 months into marriage, there is so much peace knowing that we waited and being able to share those memories with only my husband is amazing.

Thank you for sharing this. I’m 23 and I’m waiting for my husband. It’s so lonely when barely anyone waits. I trust in God when he says this is what He desires for us. I don’t feel alone and I thank you very much.

The way they speak to each other and listen to one another, shows how they have so much respect for one another.

I loved this video I have always wanted to wait until marriage for sex and I will continue to wait forever until I find the right man to be with. I'm 36 going to be 37 at the end of the year and I will wait and serve the Lord. People think I'm completely crazy that I want to save sex for marriage but I don't care I'm still waiting. God bless you Emily and Daniel.

Daniel needs his own YouTube channel for men 💜 there is so much beauty in how he speaks

It's so sad that remaining pure before marriage has to be a strange topic. Years ago, sex BEFORE marriage would be the taboo! I think it's incredibly sad that holiness is no longer an issue for "Christians".

I got married last month, and I have to say the time when we were dating/engaged and waiting already feels like nothing! It sometimes felt so, so difficult at the time, but I barely remember those feelings now that we're married. It's so worth the wait and has borne so much fruit for us already. Thank you for sharing this.

Thank you so much for talking about this! I am getting married next year and my fiance and I are saving sex for marriage and honestly the hardest part is when people tell me we should have sex before marriage and or love together to "make sure". It's very much assumed these days that any couple not having sex has an unhealthy relationship

Great video! I’m not a virgin because I did not grow up in a Christian household, but have since found Christ, repented and committed myself to a chaste life until and if I meet my Kingdom husband. Sometimes I feel like an island in my decision! But this gives so much hope! Thank you!

Oh my goodness! I can relate to the intensity of seeing each other after long periods of time. I'm in a long distance relationship with my boyfriend, OH MY GOSH that first day of seeing each other is when we're most tempted!!!

This was really, really interesting, Emily. As someone who back in the day used sex to cover up a lack of real connection and communication (but didn't realize that that was what I was doing)...I can really see the wisdom and benefit of what you're saying.

LOVING all the vulnerable, honest marriage content ❤️ My husband and I are about to celebrate one year of marriage on the 31st. We’re another intercultural couple and we live in his home country of El Salvador 🇳🇮🇺🇸

There are a lot of cute guys where I just moved and work, it's been difficult to keep my mind on purpose. These guys are fun and flirty and normal lol and they're not bad guys, but I don't think they're Christian. I believe it's no coincidence that I keep seeing this type of content recently to help me stay strong in the Lord and to keep my eyes on Him and believe that which I long for really does exist. It's been my (unfortunate) experience that men who are active in their faith as young adults are a little more than a little weird and out of touch with reality, and it's rare to find someone who is a healthy and balanced person, who enjoys their life and who loves to serve the Lord. I'm struggling to find someone who I'm attracted to, who is smart and capable, who has a pure heart, and who fears God. Thank you for your honesty and for your example! You guys are in the world but not of it and you're similar to who I'd like to be/find - Helps me to hold on and have faith for what I pray for! Blessings 🥰

Hey emily! Could you make a video addressing Catholic young womens’ feelings of inferiority with men? I’ve talked with a lot of Catholic women at many college campuses, and there’s a lot of brokenness that we experience. A lot of us feel like Catholic men might understand how to treat women like a gentleman should, but don’t quite understand how to treat them as their equals too. Not sure if this is getting across right, but in sports, group activities…etc, many women feel like they’re not listened to or included by the men and it’s a deep place of hurt that’s becoming a trend. The guys are very respectful and want to treat women with respect, but it feels like there’s a disconnect between being chivalrous and respecting a woman as their equal- Aka acknowledging that a woman might know more or be better/as good as a guy in various areas (especially some that aren’t as well received like sports). I hope this came across right and that there’s a way you could help shed light into this. I’ve been searching for a while for Catholic females who have shared their experiences, places of hurt, healing… or any commentary whatsoever on this and nothing’s coming up! Any thoughts would be greatly appreciated

It’s great to hear both your perspectives on waiting. Most people who share about their experience in waiting have a tendency to boast about it, it is essential to include that as Christians it was only by the grace of Jesus Christ that we are able to wait. Otherwise it is impossible especially when two people are in such a close proximity. Be blessed ☺️

Great advice! I almost forgot I was subscribed to you, glad I still am. I'm almost 17 and never dated but I been planning to save myself for marriage. I decided earlier this year and I feel so amazing for my choice. I know it won't be a easy path but I know that it's a decision worth making. Thanks again!

So glad to have these videos from Emily and Daniël, too. I've watched for many years, but after getting married, can't always connect with her messages any more. Always a blessing to hear about the married and mom parts of life and faith, too.