relationships are hard.

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Published 2024-01-24
This was a difficult one to make. Relationships are hard and many decisions have to be made to either stay together or part ways. Hopefully this video helps you understand this concept a bit better.

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All Comments (21)
  • @nikoyaps
    This is a very vulnerable comment section and I'm glad that you all feel comfortable enough to share your experiences! Be kind to each other now ;)
  • @sourceeee
    It’s so weird going from strangers, to lovers, then back to strangers again. I will never get used to that. Edit: I made that comment in the depths of a heartbreak at the time but since then, I found someone new that I genuinely love and appreciate. Life goes on and there will always be new opportunities to love and more situations to meet new people
  • @nickzx2709
    "Was it worth it to be happy for a little bit, even though it ended up sad, or would it have been better if the whole thing never happened?" this is the phrase that repeats in my head everytime i think about my first love.
  • @vermin592
    Feels like old youtube. With no fancy edits, no intro,outro , no crazy music or script. Just a guy playing a fun game and talking about life
  • @thomasmunro7287
    The hardest thing for me after it ended was the feeling of something missing in daily life. You become so used to having them around without realising and when they're gone, it kinda feels like you're physically in a different place. Home doesn't feel like home all of a sudden if that makes sense. Really weird and quite difficult to adjust to at first. Something I completely didn't expect. It took a long time for that feeling to pass but the lessons and experiences it gave me were worth every minute.
  • @TJMJordan
    Endings are always hard, but they do give way to new opportunities for beginnings
  • it's good to see a normal person speaking calmly saying things that make sense the genre already died guys... 5 months was all it took for this genre to degenerate and be abused
  • @GobMediator
    On an unrelated note: If you're going to break up with someone, tell them why you want to break up and spare no detail. The classic phrase "Its not you, its me" isn't a good enough response, because they are going to blame themselves regardless. Tell your soon to be ex what they did wrong or why you don't want to be with them. Leaving them to stew in their own thoughts over what they think they did wrong will only make things worse for both parties. It's never soley one person's fault for a break-up. Lying to make them feel better? Horrible move. Tell them you want to break up and tell them why. It's going to get ugly, whether its two seconds after you tell them or two weeks when they snap from frustration, but it's the best option for the long term so that both of you can move on and not be sitting wondering if they were really told everything about your reasons. Don't deny closure for the sake of comfort, It's insulting.
  • @water949
    if anyone fresh out of a breakup is reading this, you should understand you are in absolutely no rush to move on or heal. i know the first weeks and maybe months are a blinding cloud where you can’t see what’s ahead of you or what’s destined for you. you feel like you’ve lost everything, i know because i’ve been there, but the world doesn’t end at your first heartbreak, or your second, or your third. your world ends when you are satisfied. nobody is expecting you to be satisfied so soon after a breakup, it really is the worst feeling, grieving someone who’s still alive. but the truth is, and it’s hard to understand early on, but you need to lose yourself, to find who you really are, because you’re still growing and changing. changing paths does not mean giving up, you’re allowing yourself to reach your full potential. if you’re looking to move on but you’re not quite sure how, tie up your loose ends on your own. don’t go back to them even if you want to so desperately, don’t wait for them or expect them to come back, the less you know the better, and you will find peace in yourself, if you take time to yourself. moving into another relationship immediately never heals your wounds, i promise. even if you were the one who left the relationship, growth from experience is necessary, otherwise the experience led to nothing. finding peace in someone else’s presence is denying yourself your true happiness that you deserve, find peace in yourself, so that you can be the best version of yourself for someone else in the future. moving on and healing has no time frame, its certainly not respective as to how long the relationship lasted either. i’ve been in a two year relationship and a seven month relationship, and the seven month was the hardest in my experience. again, it’s hard to acknowledge now but the pain is necessary, growth hurts. physically or emotionally growth is a necessity, and it hurts but the fruits of it overcome the pain of the process. if you’re hurting, you’re healing properly, i promise you. don’t rush yourself, in time everything will fall into place, i speak from experience. i’m still healing, and i’m still single many months later, but for the first time in so long i am genuinely happy on my own and with myself
  • @teacuping5734
    A real ass guy playing a real ass game talking about a real ass topic. This is perfect.
  • @alexb7092
    Lying is the worst thing you can do in any relationship. Betrayal and lies are so destroying.
  • @xPrecisionx
    It's crazy how age and maturity completely changed my perspective on my ex. I absolutely hated her for a long time, and I thought that she was the reason our relationship crashed and burned. Over time, I began to realize how my insecurities and lack of experience pushed her away. I'm glad to say that I can live with the poor decisions I made in the past, and I am a much better person for it.
  • @zuruku8315
    bro went in my recommendation and dropped the hardest wisdom with a minecraft gameplay background
  • @jasonpersonal123
    the minecraft gameplay was so comforting, it’s as if im playing as my younger self while my future self is talking to me and giving me wisdom
  • I feel like I needed to see this. I’m contemplating breaking up with my partner of 4.5 years and I feel terrible because nothing is exactly wrong in our relationship but things just don’t feel right anymore and I feel like we might be on different paths. I feel really scared because I care about him but I know I’m going to be the “bad guy” and hurt him. At least I’m not alone.
  • @KaitaniRiku29
    Just broke up with someone special while we still love each other, but the fights are becoming so hurtful so we agreed to end it. Its giving me pain but im going to allow myself to feel all the sadness and take some time to heal. Hugs to others who is going through the same thing ❤
  • @tortiss101
    It’s so hard knowing that you can only let your partner down, and you’re right—no one really talks about that. More people should.
  • @celestiaaaa962
    “Every person you meet has a purpose. They’re either a blessing, or a lesson.” -from a podcast I listened to yet forgot the name.
  • @tomascruz1353
    thanks man, my girl just broke up with me this week, I went through a similar situation as yours and it hurts, in your chest, your head, body, but I can feel how my heart is healing now that i’m starting to make the right decisions and learning from my mistakes, we are not alone, we are just not in the same room, anyone out there going through the same, stay strong and take care of your feelings and heart
  • @dylantracey6503
    I broke up with my girlfriend of almost 5 years 3 days ago and I couldn't relate more. Her and I were online because we met on a game and we hit it off immediately. We met in person and everything seemed to be going well until a few months after when I started asking about the future and making a plan to be together someday permanently. Unfortunately, she had way too many problems going on already with her family and a job that took up 12 hours of her time 7 days a week, so thinking about our relationship wasn't something she was ready for. I was more of a distraction from a shitty life than a boyfriend. I've been crying more for her than for myself because she didn't ask for any of the problems she was born into and its just unfair. If you're in a similar situation, don't do what I did. Set boundaries early and communicate your ambitions before you get attached to someone. It might feel good to make someone feel happy and special in the short term but if It's doomed, you have to face reality or live a life under someone else's terms.