How To Get Over A Breakup FAST | Jordan Peterson

My advice to anyone dealing with the emotional fallout of a breakup. Feel it all, don't even try to suppress it. If you need to cry, do it, get it out. If you need to question what went wrong, do it, write those questions down, keep a diary of them. If you need to feel anger, channel it. It's absolutely ok to feel all those emotions, if you felt nothing, then that would be the time to worry. Emotions are healthy, it means your mind is active, all those parts that make you feel are firing just the way they should. Take all that emotional energy coursing through you and focus it into yourself. When you fall in love you give someone a huge piece of you, when they leave they take it with them. That's why you feel hollow and incomplete. Channel all that energy into rebuilding that missing piece, but make it so much more than it was before. The most powerful thing we have is potential. Use it.

Whoever is reading I hope you get through this because we all gonna make it.

I am experiencing a break up for the first time just now and I feel physically ill. She was my first real relationship and I have never felt the kind of love that I have for her. Worst thing is we both still love each other but have realized we have different dreams and goals in life that are incompatible. My chest hurts, I cannot eat and I just want it to go away. Would not wish this onto any human being. At the same time I am so happy that we happened and I got my time with her. I just miss holding her and seeing her laugh at me when I was being silly. A part of me will forever be left with her.

Broke up 4 months ago, but it hurts just as bad as the day it happened. There are good days and bad days. Just take care of yourself and learn to love and forgive yourself. If you take the time to work on yourself, you will find someone who appreciates you for you. It doesn’t go away, but it gets easier. If you’re out there having a hard time, you aren’t alone. Hang in there.♥️

Just woke up in the middle of the night obsessing about what went wrong and found this. Thank you.

Maybe really 90% of the ppl lack morals, integrity and empathy. But at least i've met you guys at this comment section. Thank you. Hope you and myself all well.

"When you fall in love you give someone a huge piece of you, when they leave they take it with them. That's why you feel hollow and incomplete." That just hit me so hard, and it's true. Much love, Peace!

As brilliant as Jordan is, the comment section has helped me more than this video.

I got dumped yesterday. Thanks for this man. I appreciate it.

I broke up with a person I really cared about over a week ago. Im some areas we were great together but in others we had issues from the start. My advice is that if your constantly seeing some red flags or fighting over the same issues than its just best to let the relationship go.. Deep down i know we were not meant to be together but part of her was damn appealing to me that I was willing to go thru it all just to have those things i was crazy about in her.. this was a mistake. It cost me a lot and no person or amount of love is worth the potential damage you can cause yourself. Focus on yourself, take care of yourself, be as sociable and active with others as you can be. Forgive yourself, and really, forgive the person as well as its not their fault if they are in key areas incompatible with you. It is what it is.. let yourself heal and when you are ready use this experience to filter and find a better person in the future.

As soon as I open my heart to someone, sooner or later, they leave me alone, in the dark. Sometimes, I think I'll never be able to find my true partner.

Ok, now I get it! How to get over a breakup fast? H Y P O T H A L A M U S

The best way to get over someone is stay busy and hang out with friends that you can relate to. If you lay around feeling sorry for yourself it only gets worse. I know it's tough to find the desire to get moving but do it anyway. You'll be better off.

I just broke up after 4year relationship, I loved this girl more than anything, since I was her first bf, I gave her my heart. We loved and cared for each other. Had our hard times ,broke up, and got up again. And now the time comes when I have to man up and say it's over. She lied to me, maybe cheated. I still love her, but it's over. What i wanted to say, in 4 years, a lot of girls were throwing at me, but i knew where the line was. She didn't, but i did never cheat on her. So, boys and girls, there is real love you just have to find it.

For all the people in this comment section that wrote 2, 3 or 5 years ago that they were heartbroken... i hope you guys are feeling better now. I love you all ❤

Just lost the love of my life. I don't want to get over it fast. I need to feel the pain, like really feel it. I felt the love with every part of my soul and I want to give credit to that. The only way to the other side of the valley is through the valley.

Recently found out my (former) best friend of 16 years has been dating my ex wife... and they messed around while we were married. Don't really care about her, but the betrayal of friendship is mind boggling. Was like a brother to me.

One of the worst pains in the world is when you lose someone you loved more than anything and YOU KNOW EXACTLY WHY. You weren't strong enough to change something awful about yourself, and you let an addiction destroy your relationship. Im 6 months removed from my 4 year relationship and it's still a day at a time for me.

The pain does heal guaranteed but you have to allow yourself to feel it on your own , dont talk about it to the person you just broke up with. Do the work, dont only blame yourself. The situation wasn't ideal because you and the person were not a great match although love was enough . Give it time and I wish you the best. I believe next relationship will be better because we have learned a thing or two.

You must first grieve the relationship, but do not wallow in the sorrow for long - take your time to cry or whatever, but pick yourself up and be better than before. Analyse what went wrong to prevent it from happening in the future, not to get back with your ex.