THIS Happens When The Avoidant Realizes They Lost You

Give the gift of no contact to avoidants who didn't want to make relationship work and expected things to "just be". focus on healing and being best version of yourself 💯

He didn't lose me, he never had me, he never knew me or wanted to know me.

This kind of relationship will make you question your worth. Run! And fast. I should have heeded the red flags at the beginning instead of wasting a decade of my life on someone unwilling to offer basic empathy or support.

Love them despite their damage and walk away.

Never go back or get involved with a DA especially if you are an anxious attachment style, they can never make you the priority and give you the attention you need, they will continuously trigger you and your life will be a misery.

No. Just no. Hold no contact. Find somebody with communication & that’s scared to lose you.

My avoidant ex reached out after 3.5 months of us talking a bit after our breakup. Kept saying “well we could be friends”, and we met up after texting a bit and I told him what do you have to offer me? You can’t offer me commitment but you broke up with me and now you still want me in your life. That makes no sense so I told him I can’t talk to you at all.

Ifs always the same advice.. an avoidant breaks up with you and the way to deal with it is to get over it.. to move on.. thats the answer(?) in other words: accept that its over. By the time they come back you will have moved on already and they can continue down their viscous cycle of breaking hearts…

Don’t believe anyone telling you a DA will ever miss you and want to come back. Once you break up with a Da, the “nothingness” you felt in the situationship with them will instantly turn into a complete void, nothing. DA’s never heal, never change, never come back. Just feel lucky that you woke up from the nightmare of being in a “relationship” with such a flawed person and move on, never look back. Don’t waste any more of your valuable time and emotional capital. Thank me later.

Focusing on your hobbies and interests after a breakup will ALWAYS put things into the proper perspective. Plus, you'll find that the RIGHT people will start coming into your life as you've opened yourself up for them to enter.

He jumped right into the next relationship immediately so he didn’t have to be alone. There’s no way he even thinks about the relationship he had with me for 5 years.

DA's are heartless robots. Just remember how distant and alone you felt inside the relationship. Find happiness elsewhere

It’s a waste of your life wait for a DA 😢 don’t make that mistake u will lose yourself and it’s hard to come back

I navigate my relationships with a D.A by avoiding them completely .

I see little difference between avoidant and covert narcissist honestly.

I just left no need to say anything. Bye!

I treated my avoidant like gold. I loved her with all my heart. Unfortunately, she brought each of her past relationships into our relationship. She told me I didn’t let her in. She met all of my friends and family, I’m still waiting to meet her friends (2year relationship). As soon as I brought up marriage, etc, she changed and couldn’t handle the pressure and anxiety of commitment. Vulnerability - forget about it. She was lost. I suggest not dating man avoidant until they heal themselves.

Having a “relationship” with an avoidant is an incredible lesson that my value and worth has absolutely nothing to do with her lack of love and care. Her mental issues are not mine. I can still love her regardless and I can be and am still loved dearly every single day…just not by her. Do I deserve to be loved by her? I guess…but we have a precious child together and we are all worth being together everyday even if our avoidant is currently walled up.

The "triggers" that I set off just made his feelings for the relationship negative. And him cold and distant. So everything he was feeling was negative and overshadowed all the beauty of ehat we had and the friendship we had. He told me his feelings for me will never change but the feelings for the relationship and how he feels I treated him will never change. So, throughout our relationship while I was trying to fix the triggers(w/out knowing about attachment styles) it was for nothing. He just pulled back until he was a cold as f&#k stranger to me

Dated a avoidant for 3 years and I’m anxious. Still today he has always left instead of fixing 3 months left and this is the longest we been done. I am happy I am meeting people who listen and are very caring and loving . I will never go back or date a avoidant.