An Avoidant FEELS THIS when they realize they've lost you

Avoidants punish you for loving them, it’s truly a losing game.

Losing them hurt, no question. But when you get on the other side of that pain, you will understand and see what you were losing and it wasn't them at all. it was losing yourself to the facade they call a relationship.

An avoidant will bring all of their past relationships into your current relationship

They feel nothing. By the time they care they’re in the process of abandoning the third person after you. They’re sociopaths.

It’s an unsafe relationship! Run

Worst people to be in a relationship with. Brutal

I'm a secure attachment person who talked to multiple times then distanced myself from someone I considered borderline avoidant. I hope the Universe carries him the rest of his healing journey.

It's been a month of no contact & I know he has regrets. I started therapy/counseling 5 months ago. I'm moving forward with understanding. No second chances. This relationship was harder than my long term relationships when I was younger. Even my 7 year marriage in my 20's. I've grown, I'm happier alone. I'm going to take a year off from dating again. I have home projects and my pets to keep me busy.

It is very sad that they have to lose you to realize your value to them. What a regret. As an old person, I'm happy to have no regrets. I gave our relationship my all. I am healing and moving forward, but sometimes I think of the good times we had. Sad.😢

Loyalty and Respect goes a long way. That it that's all.

My avoidant ex was very consistent with being inconsistent.😊

I sent a nice parting message and he completely ignored for no reason

Who cares, it is the best day of your life, get the help for you move forward be happy!

Exactly, it is not our job. Even though we probably worked like it was for 2+ years. After this last time, I just felt free (like what about Bob movie when Dr Marvin yells, I’m free). Do not let anyone suck the life out of you ❤

Cool video, My relationship of 5 years ended a month ago. The love of my life decided to leave me, I really love her so much I can’t stop thinking about her, I’ve tried my very best to get her back in my life, but to no avail, I’m frustrated, I don’t see my life with anyone else. I’ve done my best to get rid of the thoughts of her, but I can’t, I don’t know why I’m saying this here, I really miss her and just can’t stop thinking about her

I think my ex DA jumped into a new relationship right away so I doubt he will realize anything.

I truly love how u explained this matter without it being long drawn out just accurate straight too the point and meaningful. Thank u because this summed up my ex to the core. He is all of the above I don’t hate him in actual fact I forgive him for his behaviour because he is hurting more than me deep down, when he got so close to me I could see him backing away through fear and I cannot keep nurturing and reassuring someone I was starting to question me and losing my self worth so I am glad for the outcome although it hurt like hell.

Nothing lol They feel nothing g . Horney maybe. For anyone they can use and discard.

I am not her savior.

This is so true!