Why Men Get So Few Matches on Dating Apps

Corrections and remarks: - I forgot to mention that I ran the simulation 1000 times for every scenario - 05:02: "Attractiveness is subjective". A lot of comments argued that attractiveness is NOT subjective, otherwise we wouldn't have such a high inequality in likes for different users. My response to that is that attractiveness is partially subjective. A person that I consider to be attractive might not be attractive to you and vice-versa. Therefore, attractiveness has at least some level of subjectiveness. - 05:50: There's a mistake in the formula of the right chart. It should be f(x) = 14% - 06:12: The chosen functions were power functions and NOT polynomial functions, as mentioned in the footnote

Dating for straight women is like shopping. Dating for straight men is like a job interview.

The way to separate yourself from the crowd is to not participate. If you ask a woman out in person, no matter how difficult and scary it is, it will instantly put you ahead of everyone else that is too scared to do it. It also shows that at least you're confident and have social skills

I hate that dating is made mostly through apps nowadays. I genuinely HATE that.

This doesnt even go into the whole issue of fake accounts where a lot of your matches are actually just sex workers or scammers.

Best way to describe dating sites/apps that I've heard is that they're "filled with women who get attention they don't want and men who want attention they don't get"

Dating apps increased my depression by 100x

This doesn’t even factor the 0.0001% likelihood that you are to actually meet one of these few matches IN PERSON.

I'm a bi male and I can attest that the difference in my experience with matching with men and women is mind blowing. If I match with I guy I can just say hi usually it's a pretty good casual conversation, if I match with a female it's about 1-4 chance they respond with more than a few words and if they do it often devolves into an interview... It's very strange.

To all the men out there that are struggling and suffering, and I know you know just how bad it can feel, you're not alone.

I'm 29 and went out with a 42 year old woman about half a year ago. She expressed frustration that she had only been on tinder for a week and had over 5,000 likes. She even opened the app on her phone and showed me. 5,000 men to choose from, in just a week. For a middle aged woman with kids Mind-Boggling.

This video was an invaluable resource in helping a friend get over his depression due to his lack of success in dating apps. We are very glad this video exists, thanks a ton for making it!

The fact that I got an ad for a dating app on this video is crazy.

As an Engineer working with simulation systems: This video is extremely good. I love how you mark your quotations and how you talk about your thinking process step by step. Keep it up!

I see. So the key to romantic success is: 1 - Be attractive 2 - Don't be unattractive

The amount of peace I’ve sustained since getting off the apps for good three months ago is incredible.

This video is honestly great motivation for me taking my engineering probability and statistics course in Uni seriously

This goes in line with an experiment I did yesterday on tinder. I wanted to see what other man generally put in their profiles so I set up a fake account of a woman, with a picture of a landscape of my city and no bio, just a fake name and age, and interest in "something casual". In an hour this profile had about 50 likes, that's crazy!

Also there is a thing to take into consideration: dating apps are not designed to help men to find women but the exact opposite! The goal is to keep them subscribed as longer as possible!

Aa a man, this was honestly a tough watch. The data is cold, hard, and truthful, but damned if it doesn't make me feel subhuman.