8 things I wish I knew in my 20s: being single, questioning everything, timing

Summarized List: 1.Slow down you have time 2. Everybody's winging it 3. It's okay not to know 4. You don't have to do it alone 5. You'll never truly find yourself 6. Enjoy single pringledom 7. Anything is possible 8. Let go to let grow

I need to say this. To all you 20 year olds watching, sometimes you do have to do it hard alone. Sometimes you do suffer alone. And that's ok. It's not forever. You do sometimes suffer in silence, when I left home I lost my family, my school friends abandoned me, and I had nothing. I had no money. I had no friends. No one telling me I mattered or was loved. I had to fight. I had to remember why i needed life. Why I deserved life. Sometimes people aren't there for you. And it feels like you're the only one suffering alone. It actually happens and it's so very very hard. But you can survive. You just need to hang in there, focus on yourself, your needs, what you like and why you stay alive. Soon, you will draw people in who see your beauty, and choose you even though you're alone. Because they see that light. I almost died, i tried to take my own life and the universe said no. It was a miracle. I met my life partner in that time, we have been together 6 years, and he's my best friend in the whole world. You got this 💙

In my 20’s I learnt…. 1. Twenties are the years that you truly grow as person and start to form who you are now and who you want to be rather than who you SHOULD be. As the decade progresses you feel less pressure than at the start of your 20’s which is huge. 2. It’s the decade that will give you the experiences that change you and give you memories to look back on. 3. Life feels more carefree and light but near the end of the 20’s is when you start to ground yourself and start to want to be settled in all areas of your life 4. You learn what you do and don’t want in life, especially in a partner. These are years where I experienced love and heartbreak and losing myself. Then near my 30’s I started to find me again. 5. My 20’s taught me what I enjoyed the most and what things would be part of my life and which things I would grow out of eventually. 6. In my personal experience the men I was in relationships with who were in their twenties just WERE NOT ready to settle yet. That didn’t start to change until they hit 30. 7. It’s the time of confusion, not knowing which paths were the Right ones but then learning the paths we chose lead us to where we are now and oh boy did we learn from them!!! 8. Twenties were the times of making mistakes and that’s OK! 9. You learn that Friends come and go. The phrase: friends come into your life for a reason, season or lifetime REALLY makes sense in your 20’s. Friends are the family we choose for ourselves. 10. You learn what is REALLY important to you and that priorities change which is ok, things that were once important to you won’t be anymore and new priorities will accumulate. Priorities have an ebb and flow and as you get older you learn to change, grow and adapt to these changes. The only DEFINITE thing in life is that change always happens and you can’t change that!!

I'm 28 years old. I definitely feel the time scarcity thing. I can't hold down a job, I don't have a significant other, and I don't have a good group of friends who understand and support me. I don't even have a well connected family. So it definitely feels like my life is a huge train reck and I should have been able to figure things out by now. So this video is comforting. It helps me reinforce to myself that I need to practice patience.

Ro, I needed this so much. I just turned 25 and feel so overwhelmed and “behind” in life.

Note to all 20-something year-olds who feel like they’re constantly playing the game of catch up and pressured to prove themselves to the world: you’re not alone. Let’s have each other’s backs 🤍

To add to Ro’s 2nd point, don’t be scared of failure. Failure is not a bad thing, it’s trial and error. People who cannot confront “failure” struggle with bouncing back compared to those who understand failure is just part of the game of life. The feeling sucks, sure, but as long as you learn from it, you’re already steps ahead of those who avoid it.

So nice to see you and your flowers so early on my Saturday morning. All the best to you, Rowena. I like your content. I'm 59, mere months from 60. I'm just discovering myself and my purpose again. Through our lives, many of us will experience second, third, maybe even a fourth, change. We can learn to surrender, to let go of our fears, and embrace new challenges and ways of thinking. It's okay to not know the result as long as you enjoy your journey.

definitely needed this as a very lost, unsure and intimidated 26 year old

very timely for me. im 22, and you're channel shaped me since i was 20. this time im on my graduating year and i feel like everyone's falling in love, getting into relationships then people around me as well as my parents rushing me to it too to the point i breakdown and ask Him WHY. big thanks to this video, now im finding my purpose again. everyone has their own timeline. learn to love and discover yourself first. your videos and podcast really means so much to me.

Turning 20 in a couple months, and the thing about eventually not having time alone really hit me. I still want kids and all, but I lovee alone time, so it really helped me accept where I am right now ❤

I'm approaching my quarter-life crisis, aka 25, and I'm still very confused, but your video, as always, provides so much comfort. I know I'm doing my best, and I don't have to have everything figured out. There are days I feel extremely lonely, like no one else understands me or I don't understand anyone even though we're all in our 20s. But then there are days where I'm happy to be alone and that I didn't go somewhere out of peer pressure. I want to cherish my 20s as much as possible from now on.

I'm 25 now and I'm simultaneously horrified and relieved that I'm so close to 30. I'm horrified b I feel like my 20's flew by without having accomplished anything worthwhile, but also relieved bc I feel like there's so much more clarity in my life as I get closer to 30. :( but also :)

I’m almost 29 wasting time for what ppl think of me, Caring for what ppl thinking, spend time in the internet more than 8 hrs a day, jealous ppl who success in life and love the wrong person. Now I’m 28 thinking back to these time, I feel so guilty, and I wanna tell you guys that No one is actually care what you think, you need to believe in yourself and love yourself. You may make mistakes but life is a lesson to learn. :)

I feel lonelier in my 30s then my 20s. My friends are married or engaged. Then there’s me who still doesn’t know who she is. Processing trauma while trying not to compare but healing has just been such a lonely process

If I could just tell one thing to my younger self it would probably be to stop hyperfocusing on myself (the way I look, the way I sound, etc etc). Sure you're the "main character", sure life is experienced through you, but this hyper awareness of yourself makes you paranoid and egocentric because you stop seeing people as human beings with lots of layers to them and you start seeing them as mere reflections of you, thus wondering if they like you or not. Stop thinking about yourself so much and be more curious about other people. I'm 25 and still trying to implement this on my day to day. And that's the best way I can explain it haha

“It’s easy to see somebody at their best and think that is all of who they are”

I’m 20 and my goal rn is to finish my bachelors degree and graduate from college then get my master’s and figure what I really want to do from there. Basically I’m just swinging it, trying not to compare myself to others and not to overthink. I’m just go with the flow 😆

this advice can be tough when you’re going through it. especially, what she said about not having to do it alone. i just wish the world and myself were different.

I just love the gentle, positive encouragement and wisdom you always share. You truly radiate peace and joy~