WE'RE HAVING TWINS! - RELAX #20

eric comparing his two unborn children to the demon twins from the shining is my favorite thing ever

I’m a twin and my #1 advice is to let them share their room as kids but as soon as they ask for their own let them have it. I shared a room, classes, sports etc. with my sister and we had no individuality until we went to college. It’s so important to encourage them to be their own people as soon as you can!!

“Eric’s not exited about it-“ “I bought a mini van?!” 😭😭😭

I really appreciate eric being so concerned with the twins having separate identities and not being compared!! So important!!!

I can't believe it's already the 20th episode. Who else has been here since the first?

Aww, Can we just appreciate the fact that colleen has a toddler, is PREGNANT with TWINS, and runs multiple channels and has a podcast with her husband. Colleen and Eric are the sweetest parents and now they are going to have 3 children! so adorable and they deserve all the happiness and blessings they will receive <3 xx

As a fraternal twin (we are both girls and have VASTLY different personalities) I really appreciate Erik's points on how twins are raised and the environment it creates for them. Being a twin, especially fraternal, is no different than having a slightly older/younger sibling that you are in the same school grade as!

Twin here! Things to expect: -Eric is absolutely right DO NOT compare the twins, this genuinely can cause trauma even when well-intentioned -Expect a period of time where the twins become demonic chaos lords towards each other.... -....But then one day they just might become best friends! -Plan your parties to be double in size in case the twins make mutual friends -Let them choose out the toys and colors they want instead of choosing for them, and if both twins love the color blue then just get two blue stuffed animals for example -Expect that their personalities might be quite different -Expect them to start speaking verbally at a quick pace, they may even speak "gibberish" to each other -Don't force them to be friends but do encourage that they respect each other at home and at school and don't bully each other -Don't force one twin to socialize/join in as a supervisor, for example when my twin and I got older I was the more social one between us two and my parents would often tell me I can't go out with friends "unless your sibling goes with you" ; I understand it's because they felt I would be safer if my sibling was there as someone I could trust, however it forced me to either (a) not be able to go out if my sibling didn't want to go or (b) force my sibling to go somewhere they didn't want to -Split the chores fairly; i.e. if you have a boy and a girl then everyone should be doing chores not the girl doing the "girl chores" and the boy doing the "boy chores" it sends a really unhealthy message to the twins that they aren't held to the same expectations in being a good citizen of the household -Be open-minded that one or both of the twins may be neurodivergent since you have ADHD; ADHD or Autism would be two things to look into for sure, my twin was diagnosed first and then I was diagnosed as well years later -Be prepared for them to be small or need to be birthed early--We were tiny babies! But we are healthy and happy :) Good luck! Pregnancy is hard!

i could see them incorporating her grandparents name into the twins’ middle names, especially bc her grandpa was a twin! when u do pick names it’d be interesting to hear some contenders you decided not to use but really liked!

Also just remembering last year when Colleen was sad because people who were pregnant when she was with Flynn are pregnant or already have a second kid, well now Colleen will have 3 kids to everyone else’s 2 kids 😂 overachiever🤪

As a twin, please do not dress them identically. Don’t use them as your dressup dolls. Erik is 100% right it complicated my identity so much. I was never given the room to explore my own personality or style. I never really felt like my own person, just an extension of my sister. You can dress them the same as infants but as they start to become their own people, I encourage you to let them dress themselves and explore their own individual identities. It’s both the best and worst thing to experience. You have a built-in best friend. I was never alone at school or at parties because I could always rely on her to be there. But the comparisons are constant and the pressure is heightened. Edit: oh my mom has always known which twin is which. But once you get to know a pair of twins, you’re always able to tell, regardless of who you are

I die whenever Erik's humor goes completely over Colleen's head

I had good friends in high school that are twins. They didn’t really like being called “the twins” or “the boys”. They appreciated the acknowledgement of their individual personalities and lives.

Colleen: are you making fun of a pregnant woman Erik: OH $H!T

You should bring on Mama Dr. Jones! She has had twins and, as you know,she is SO knowledgeable and would probably have a lot to say that could be helpful ❤️

As a twin, I greatly appreciated the moment Erik spoke about how dressing twins can complicate their identity. This happened to me. My whole life I’ve had identity issues and it stems 100% from being a twin that was forced to dress like my sister until I was basically in 5th grade and able to argue about it slightly. My sister and I still have issues in our relationship till this day, and it all stems from this concept. Usually no one understands, addresses, or even thinks this is an issue, but it is.

Get Erik his own podcast so he can talk about his minivan

I would agree that the comparison thing definitely exists more when you’re a twin. We were very rarely in the same class in school, my parents did that on purpose, to avoid direct competition. So, I don’t think that matching outfits causes that necessarily, unless they don’t want to match. My twin brother and I choose to match outfits now as adults sometimes 😂 but there really is nothing more special than the bond we share. We truly are best friends. Also, HIGHLY recommend getting a “side-by-side” stroller for them, that way there is no competition for front or back seat, because the competition will be real 😂 Congrats to you guys, so happy for your family❤️

erik: “dylan and cole sprouse” colleen: “never heard of them” me: 🤦🏻‍♀️

Colleen: “We’ll need 2 of everything” Erik: “Sounds expensive...” Hahaha such a typical dad response 😂