mens obsession with humbling women [“i had to humble her”]

"Not all men." "You're right. Gomez Addams would never treat anyone this way."

Compliments hit different from other women because we know they aren’t trying to get something from us and actually mean them.

I used to work with a young woman who was exceptionally beautiful, and men would neg her all the time. Being older, I recognized this for what it was and took pride in calling them out on it.

I used to pity insecure people. With time I noticed that they are actually REALLY DANGEROUS. Stay away from them at all costs.

Girls stop being nice to men who try to humble you. Please don't engage. They don't deserve your energy. Please invest in someone who treats you decently

I think the insulting as a love language only applies between men. When they do it to women, it’s a very deliberate attempt to diminish their confidence and have easier access to them. If a man negs you or he does the “compliment/insult” combo, run 🏃‍♀️

I remember sitting on a bench, in a park, with a guy I had a date with. He was making remarks on my teeth and how they strange they were in his opinion. Three young women (angels!) came up to me to tell me how beautiful I looked that day. He was SO jealous of the compliment I received 🤣.

Men need to stop trying to “teach” women how to be women…. We made yall!

The one thing I hate hearing is guys say "I usually don't like or date black women but you're gorgeous to be a black girl"

"I like this one right here." He said that as if she was an object.

Reminds me of 8th grade, when a boy asked me out. It first the first time I’d ever been asked out to my face, so I turned bright red. I politely turned him down, mostly because I didn’t know him super well except from some church events. He took it well at first, but within the next month said, “you have a mustache,” to me in front of some guys (I have slightly darker upper lip hair). I simply said, “so you asked out a girl with a mustache.” And he had no words. I sometimes wonder if he thought my initial bashfulness meant that I had no self esteem.

girl please PLEASE talk about women hating each other for male validation oh my god plssssss

Of course he is insecure he is short and not very physically attractive. So proud of these girls for showing solidarity

I don't think men understand how much we value women's compliments over theirs... I will tear up from a kind compliment from a woman, but a man? I'm just wondering wtf he's trying to get from me. Nice dress?? Wtf do you know about dresses?

Like how men tell you you’re soooooo so so pretty … but then say something like “too bad that’ll change the second you hit 30”

Honestly the first time this happened to me was when I was taking a class and this guy who was twice my age criticized my dyed hair. The comment was incredibly passive aggressive and so uncalled for that I really didn't know how to react. Turns out he secretly hated me because I was better than him at school 😭 so he decided to criticize my hair I guess? Lmao he was so insecure. I hate men like that.

Honestly, after what he said to the girl dressed in black, if I was the princess, I wouldn’t have spun around for him. He was so mean.

there was this tiktok of a conventionally attractive man asking this woman to rate him 0-10, she said like 5 or smth because she had a boyfriend and he wasnt her type... good lord did the men go insane on twitter that day, seems women arent allowed to humble "hot" men back

About the "you have a deep voice" comment that is meant to destabilize her by bringing up something he thinks could be an insecurity of hers, it's such a classic move from a lot of guys ! So glad you pointed it out. When this happens, I usually respond with a joyful "Omg thank you!" As if they paid me a genuine compliment :) that usually throws them off. Because the truth is there's nothing wrong with deep voices, hairy legs, big jewelry, bold clothing or unusual hair colors. Femininity is what you want it to be. They're just jealous because they're afraid to allow themselves this type creativity.

You'd be surprised seeing the comments of guys on gym related videos, whenever it's a woman. A video will have a woman lifting up weights or showing off her muscules, and guys will flod the comments section with "men are still stronger" "I can lift up more than her" "that's right, let's humble this one" "men are biologically stronger" and it was never a competition video in the first place, it was just a woman showing her accomplishments but it throws them off so bad