What True Love Really Is

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Published 2018-09-04
Most of us think we know what love is; we may just be looking for the right person to lavish our love on. But it's no insult, and indeed it might even be helpful to imagine, that we don't have much of a clue what love really is, not because we are deficient, but because our culture never investigates the subject as it should. Here is a list of seven ingredients that the School of Life suggests lie at the heart of a proper understanding of love.

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“The world is sick for a surprisingly modest-sounding reason: we don’t understand love – and yet we are rather convinced that we do. We talk a lot of love of course, but generally in terms of a dizzying rapture lasting a few months focused on someone’s beauty, intelligence and strength. The most convincing discussion of love in the West came from Jesus of Nazareth, which has been unfortunate, given how easy it is to overlook everything he had to say once you don’t ‘believe’.”

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All Comments (21)
  • What do you think of our seven ingredients of love? Let us know your own in the comments below and sign up to our new newsletter and get 10% off your first online order of a book, product or class: bit.ly/2LayJ9F
  • @Albanez39
    Love is not the fire that burns deeply when you first meet, it's the small flame that remains when everything has burned down during the years...
  • @Fulgrim88
    And thats only half of it. The real challenge is being loved back. Many people dislike themselves so fiercely, that they cannot deal with being loved, and actually devalue a person who is kind to them as naive, blind or desperate. Why else would they love someone so deeply flawed as us
  • @Abhishek-vz6ud
    True Love is accepting your partner just as they are. not expecting to fit our preferences. Always learning and embracing the difference. I love playing Questions games like Lovify. And, it does help build understanding. Taking small steps towards better relationship and living dream life together 💗💗
  • @BruttanBruno
    1. Charity 2. Imagination 3. Kindness 4. Forgiveness 5. Loyalty 6. Generosity 7. Patience Take care ❤
  • @normbabbitt4325
    I always love the quote (either of Plato's or Philo's), "Be kind, for everyone you meet is fighting a hard battle."
  • @LoFoSho
    "When you love someone, you treat their heart like it was your own." -6lack
  • @Notme811_you
    Loving someone is knowing their faults and still choosing them.
  • In my opinion: You can only love someone in a healthy way if you love yourself in a healthy way. This is not narcissism, this is important to develop a healthy relationship with firstly yourself AND secondly your partner or other people in life. And also to prevent yourself from toxic things like relationships or toxic people in general. Because if you love yourself (to a healthy degree! Otherwise it tends to be a narcissistic self love) you know what or who is good for you and what or who is not. So love yourself! <3 Have a nice day everyone! Greetings from Germany :)
  • @ciera4935
    One of my favorite quotes about love is “Love does not consist of gazing at each other, but in looking outward together in the same direction.” -- Antoine de Saint-Exupery
  • You left out the main ingredient of love. Communication, Transparency, Acceptance and Honesty
  • "Love is the willingness to give" And it is giving all those traits above 🧡
  • Today's generation relationships are all about having fun , boozing, long rides and holiday trips. But when it comes to struggles, survival , go long through all the pain together, that's it, people lose interest and give up. It's like people love each other just to have fun. I believe true love is all about staying with your partner during his/her bad times and helping each other grow , not the other way around
  • @QueenKelleyz
    That doesnt mean to walk back to the toxic person you decided to leave.
  • @canny1485
    To me true love is being together while being separated. No boundary, counrty or blocks on the way cannot stop you from loving that person or understanding them in a very calm and delicate manner. Love is all about having another person's heart in your chest and treat them as you take care of yourself
  • @luluandmeow
    And all these wonderful qualities should be reciprocated too, there should be equality in love, not just one person doing all the kindness, support, etc. In friendships too.
  • @minialexandra
    “You do not give love, you grow in love.” - Leo Buscaglia
  • @AmJustMaiko
    Love is an idea that can't be explain fully. It's something unreachable but yet so comforting.