Stop Being Your Own Enemy - Self Sabotage

Thank you Dr. Fox. I have started brushing my teeth taking a shower and walking to my mailbox every morning instead of staying in bed.

Dr. Fox, your understanding of BPD is compassionate and accurate. You are helping the world understand our humanity and all of us with BPD. Thank you

The "all or nothing" view of life is a vicious cycle that keeps you in the same place and tells you that making the smallest steps is not good enough and demands you make big changes right now and just be like everyone else. Building up from the ground the foundations to live a healthier and fulfilling life is the right thing to do but it takes massive efforts and time in order to break the old habits and adopt healthy and better ones instead

That elephant with the rope analogy was extremely illuminating for me, thanks for these videos they really make a difference in my life

As an individual who lives with this diagnosis and grew up in a rough environment that has exacerbated my symptoms. I often tell people that I despise hood culture because many people are not aware of how that environment makes a disorder like this even worse. So far, I have lost one person who lost their battle with this disorder. When poor and unemployed, it is very difficult to find a therapist trained to treat this disorder because they prefer private insurance, and most people living with this disease are unemployed and on government assistance. Thank you for your work because without many people, they would not receive treatment. This disorder produces symptoms that people simply can not tolerate living with as well as being around and is almost in the same category as schizophrenia depending on the environment that an individual develops in.

Thank you for describing things perfectly. I often struggle to form the words out loud what's happening inside my mind but you expressed what it's really like especially with the description of the family in the head. Thank you for providing helpful solutions to stop being our worst enemy and how visualization can be a useful tool.

You are not trapped in a room full of demons, they're trapped in a room with you 💪

I cannot say thank you enough. We appreciate you.

These are great analogies "family in the head" and "evolution of the baby elephant's strength".

Your understanding of the voices in my head blows my mind. I am on Chapter 7 of the BPD Workbook, it deals directly with the family in the head and I am carrying my worksheets around with me and reading them regularly so I can rewire my brain. It's such powerful work. Yes, it's like walking up hill, but the benefits are immediate. I honestly think I can put this into remission. At 59.

This came at a really good time. Every single time I make any progress, I feel so good about it briefly, but the first sign of failure and I’m ready to throw in the towel in every meaning of the expression. It’s just incredibly embarrassing to have such a fragile grasp on reality and such a difficult time regulating emotions that are so overwhelming that at times I just go mute and freeze. The most difficult part of all of it is that I genuinely can’t see myself getting better, I have no hope and no faith in myself, and to be honest, I really don’t feel I deserve to get better. Knowing that it’s up to me to do the work is defeating in itself. Ugh, I’m sorry, vent. I do have both books by dr Fox and I highly recommend both. While My ADHD prevents me from retaining 95% of what I read, the insight I’ve gained has been invaluable. I guess it’s all a process. I just wish it didn’t need to take so long. Thanks dr fox 🙏

Extremely refreshing to hear these logical, achievable steps that are not coated in cryptic, religious terms. Thank you for empowering so many.

Yes thank you. I also started to shower and stuff again thank you

My "family in the head" is called "Amy", which stands for annoying misinformed you lol when I get depressed or have a panic attack, I just tell myself "Oh, Amy is speaking up". When I think this or say this to myself it reminds me that my emotions are in play and I am in "emotional mind", and I do not have all the facts. It then allows me to practice DBT skills I have learned and fact-check the situation. The name came to mind when I reading and learning about the amygdala. Plus, it sometimes allows me a little chuckle during a very distressing situation, which kinda helps relieve it a bit.

This type of content is so valuable it’s a treasure, thank you for uploading these videos Daniel

Thank you for your video Dr Fox! I'm truly in! Having a full blown C-PTSD reactivated at my last workplace with an employee that was molested by a multirecidivist...

Thank you so much. You articulate exactly where I’m at regarding going forward. Thank you!

Thank you, Dr. Fox!

Thank you Dr Fox. This information is very helpful in understanding my internal dialogue and how to manage it.

Love elephant story. I feel like that elephant.