Why You Should DETACH from the Man You Want

A clever person told me once, concerning relationships: Two halfes does not make one whole - but two whole people will make one perfect whole.

"Detachment while dating or in a relationship means that we remain independent... they are a great addition to our life but never a necessity. They don't own us and we do not own them." "Detachment is never about not caring or shielding our heart... it's all about the full acceptance of whatever can happen."

Being alone gets lonely, but it's the best decision I've ever made in my life. Thank you God 🙏🏾 Self love is way more important than feeling like you're "in love".

I will sure detach.... forever...I do not need to play games. We are either in or we are out. people need to stop listening to all these "relationship" experts. I do not put anyone on a pedestal. I just love.

I truly love being alone, I have found that I am my own best friend and enjoy my time without anyone. ❤

Because I listened to you, took your break up course, and followed your advice that any guy that couldn't commit yet wanted to keep me around, I am now married to the man of my dreams. You were right, what felt devastating at the time and like my life was over, a couple of years later has proven to be the stepping stone that led me to the one that not only was what I wanted but he committed fully to me and works on our relationship every day. We are moving in to the home of our dreams right now, working side by side to make life the best it can be. Detachment to outcome works! ❤

Did it Totaly lost myself, Then after 27yrs. He left anyway even tho everything was the way he wanted it. Don't Lose yourself in your Relationship, it takes a while to find yourself again.

When attached you almost unconsciously make choices you would otherwise not make. That still fascinates me. 😊

It’s so true that a breakup might not necessarily be a bad thing bc it is like a stepping stone to achieving a better relationship with the right person!

I'm so comfortable being alone that being around people is sometimes more uncomfortable than it used to be.

Detachment is hardest thing to do for me. Because I am overcaring everything.

Great info. Dont chase men and don't over attach to anyone 😊

Nobody needs a detached person. At least not me. Why would I try to be something that I would not accept from another? It's ok to be attached, it's the purpose of a relationship. What you are talking is not detachment. It's self-dignity. When somebody is not paying attention to you in the way you think you deserve, you are then capable to take the decision to not invest in them any further. But when you are having a relationship with someone who is detached, well that's such a shame for both of you. Attachment is healthy. Just not at the cost of your self-dignity.

Usually I agree with you Brian, however the word I believe you’re looking for is discernment, not detachment. Detachment means you’re emotionally unavailable. I’d rather be open & honest, especially in your 40’s. 😂 if he’s not for me, keep it movin!!’

This is what I call self-dignity. If you are a healthy secure person you don"t fall for the "coolness" of the other person. You fall for their interest in you. Because cool people with beautiful eyes are millions out there, but the one who chooses to be with you, is just one. So, I understand that he is talking about unhealthy attachment here to the guys who don't invest in their relationship with you, but you do. It's just that people start using the term attachment as a general negative term and are persuaded that they have to avoid attachment at any cost even within a healthy dynamic of a relationship.

There is a God shaped hole inside of all of us that Only God can fill.Psalm 139 ❤

I have watched this at exactly the right time to inspire me to stay strong and put things into perspective as reality.

I think Buddha said something like ‘attachment is like poison’ 😱 to anything. Detaching allows freedom and flow and with compassion and true love. I know what it’s like to be attached to something material, and yes it can destroy and possess you. It is like a poison.

I’m just coming out of this as of yesterday it hurts but I did the right thing and walked away with class. No begging just said ok wish you the best.

This advice is also great for crushes