THE WINDOW OF TOLERANCE when healing from a narcissistic relationship

I am 71, you just explained my life in a nutshell. I knew my highs and lows were not normal but I just accepted it was just how it was. Thank you again for giving me the insight I have been seeking all of my life.

Something that I love about you, doctor, is the way you lower your voice, speak slowly and clearly, and choose your words carefully, so the message gets through without feeling overwhelming and it's easy to understand even when we are dysregulated. Thank you so much!!

Woah. Yea, it is easy to forget how much the nervous system is being affected by the abuse. Step one, ground yourself. Okay. I want to open that window.

This is extremely helpful. When I cut off a narcissist less than a year ago, it was hard to function or think clearly for several months. Now I think I’m seeing things, and the narcissist themselves, more clearly. Thanks for this video!

This world needs Dr Ramani ☮️💜🙏

Unbelievable human being! Thank you, Dr.Ramani for literally saving people's lives.

I owe you my life, Dr. Ramani!! You have no idea how much you’ve helped me!! I would love to meet you one day, it is a dream of mine. God bless your beautiful soul!! 👏🏼🫶🏻🙌🏼

You're amazing Dr Ramani. We need this.. I need this. Thank you so much for what your doing for us! ❤❤❤

It's a shame how much damage many in the psychological "services" industry do to the public. I appreciate your education of the public on narcissism, yet the narcissistic abuse I experience is ongoing, because the white collar trash who committed the abuse during my childhood are so holy, the current "professionals" can just ignore me. It isn't neglect, it's narcissistic abuse.

I left the narcissist two months ago. Immediately my anxiety dropped from nearly 10/10. Whenever the feelings became overwhelming I went out for a walk. This seemed to regulate me, besides having the added benefit of making me healthier and lose weight. I still get the overwhelming craving to see him sometimes, but I don't go. I thought of him constantly at first, but can spend time not thinking about him now, without it ending in panic. I still have a long way to go though, and these videos are helping me a lot.

OMG! I experienced this this week. Right down to a tea it even triggered my asthma, my heart was racing, and I was saying all the horrible things that I used to say to myself when I was with the narcissist, i’m 5 1/2 years out of that relationship. I felt incapable of a decision and I was driving from Jacksonville to Tampa and then a day later back to Jacksonville. I was shaking so hard. I could hardly keep my hands on the steering wheel and I missed my exits a couple of times and this is the route that I’ve been taking for 40 years going between Tampa and Jacksonville. Of course, that only came with more self devaluing comments about myself. I truly felt like I must’ve either had a stroke or, ugh this is really hard to say but this is what I thought and that was that I’ve lost my mind and I’m entering dementia at 63 1/2 years old it was really awful! I wanted to talk to someone but had no one I felt I could trust which is the other video I watched this morning that you provided earlier this week. I just wanted to have a hug and cry, but I was alone as usual and behind the wheel and that made me a danger to myself and others.😢😢😨😧🙀

From a Dr. on this mornings Fox News referring particularly to President Biden but applicable to everyone under stress. This info, in addition to everything in Dr. R's daily videos, tells me that the lifetime damage of staying in a narc relationship isn't worth the risks. "Stress can worsen cognitive issues by causing a spike in cortisol, the primary stress hormone. Prolonged exposure to high cortisol levels can accelerate the deterioration of brain regions, such as the frontal and temporal lobes, which are crucial for cognitive functions like memory, decision-making and impulse control."

It makes me so happy to see how your channel has grown since I started watching. I found you back in 2021 when I was in an abusive relationship. You helped me learn about the situation I was in and helped put words to things I was experiencing so I could understand. I escaped that hell and have been on a healing journey since then, and Dr. Ramani has helped me so much along the way. So happy to see more people finding you and becoming aware of narcissism.

Thirty years with a covert narcissist. Frequently during those years I would have dreams where my ex would act like I didn’t exist or he would be cruel and controlling. When I’d wake up I’d tell myself it was just a silly dream. He was a nice guy. I mean everyone KNEW that. I wish I had explored those dreams more thoroughly with a therapist, especially one who was trained in the identification of passive aggressive covert narcissist abuse. Going forward I’m going to trust my instincts and not be so ready to dismiss my dreams as being silly.

This video really hit home for me. I blamed myself it was me I was the problem. Thank you Dr Ramini.

Thank you Dr.Ramani❤❤❤

Boy, did I need this message today, Thank you!!!👍❤❤❤

She’s wonderful. I’ve watched her on Unsolved Mysteries (or those unexplained crimes docu series). I always love her analysis.

Thank you Dr Ramani, peace and blessings to everyone 🙏

It's like you have been my therapist sense I found you each video has been right on time with exactly what I need to hear THANK YOU SO MUCH for all you have done for all of us that need your work and for all you have dedicated even when your own health is triggered by it sending healing your way !