Men are CLEAR, not CONFUSING

As a guy, have to agree with Emily on this one. If a guy is being "confusing" as Emily is describing it. It is because, he doesn't want to be with you, but texts/snapchats you spends time with you occasionally, because he likes something about you or wants something from you without committing. Or, it is because he does want to be with you, but he is too insecure/unsure about himself to pursue you. If a guy wants to be with you, he will make it clear to you.

I removed him from my social media. I cried and feel really sad, but I did it. Thank you for reminding me of what I deserve

This sooo true! There is a HUGE difference between a boy and a man. I remember when my husband and I started dating he clearly stated that he wanted s serious relationship and that he wanted to date. There was never a question about it. Looking back I was the one that was immature I told him that we should “just hang out” (I had just broken up with my previous bf) and he was like “No, I am not doing that. I already have friends for that.” 😂 I am so glad that I changed my mind. He is the best thing that has ever happened to me and I can’t believe I almost messed that up. Ladies, do not waste your time with a guy that “just wants to hang out” or isn’t clear about what he wants. A real man will be intentional and let you know how he feels. 💜

I’m in Australia and I feel I will not find a good Christian guy here. Not many people are religious here. Please pray that I find someone good, I seriously losing hope!! 💔

I know so many girls who are in relationships without guys who won't 'define' the relationship and who just keep getting more and more confused. Loved what you said about this - Men who care about you will not leave you wondering whether he is interested or not! ✨ xxx

Texting and Snapchat are ruining dating, they are terrible, juvenile, immature ways of communicating, especially at the courting phase of a relationship.

I remember I emailed you Emily about this EXACT kind of situation roughly 2 years ago, and I'm so glad I took your advice. It wasn't until I took a step back and looked at the situation with a clear head that I realized the guy in question was only looking for attention, and had no interest in being intentional or clear about where we stood. I couldn't cut him out of my life completely because we had so many mutual friends, but once I stopped caring and hanging on every word, it didnt matter to me anymore. I went on my way, and enjoyed myself without worrying about him or his ambiguity up through when I graduated college and said goodbye to that group of people. These situations are rough, but getting invested in something thats grounded in potential instead of reality will only hurt your heart in the long run. This video was exactly all of that, summed up so beautifully. Thank you for sharing your heart with us <3

THANK YOU!!! OMGGGGGGG! This has been my WHOLE life and I'm actually done. For real. I actually don't want anything to do with relationships or dating until someone flat out says "HEY. I LIKE YOU AND I WANT TO PURSUE A RELATIONSHIP WITH YOU. LETS GO OUT." Someone who is straightforward and bold. Someone who isn't afraid to tell me how he feels.

I literally have to comment twice because I have been here SO many times!!! Thank you SO so so so much for this Emily...this made me emotional to watch because I am so disappointed in myself for the past decisions I made with guys who did this to me because I to a certain extent allowed it to happen. I had to bring this to God this morning and ask for forgiveness for it...I've recently realized how it's not just the physical stuff we need to set boundaries for, it's the emotional stuff too. It's all so so important. I love you SO much and literally look up to you so much, thank you for being such an amazing role model for so many of us girls. I have tears in my eyes watching this, God really spoke to me through you and I'm super grateful.

What’s more, a guy who does this to a girl is effectively taking her off the market. As a guy, I wouldn’t want to date a girl who I saw frequently hanging out with another guy. Even if he had told me that they weren’t dating, I would be suspicious about exactly why they’re hanging out in the fashion that dating couples do without dating. Just a thought.

This is such a great topic. When I was younger fell in love with a few confusing guys but God never let me go any further with any of them. A couple months ago I finally met a real man who was clear since the beginning about his intentions and I praise God for putting him in my life because he's such a godly man. There are good men out there. Have faith. It's just not the time for you to be reunited yet. But when you do get together it will be beautiful and the wait will be worth it as it was for me.

We are not place holders for a wife someday. I DESPISE when men do this to women...and if my sons even dream of treating young women like this...so much trouble and I will tell her to dump him.

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My boyfriend was really confused whether to choose me or his new girlfriend. Well I allowed him to choose her.

I just found your channel today, and lets me say tis video spoke straight to me. I was with this guy and to me it seemed like we were in a relationship but he never opened up. Things ended after 5-6 months of talking. A few weeks ago he sent me a snapchat and asked how I was and let me tell you... he drew me back in. I've invited him to church with me and never comes. This video was definitely the wake up call I was needing. A true man will not make me wonder or question what we are. I simply just wanted to say thank you. I feel like I found your channel at the time I needed it the most, crazy how God works! thank you.

God is not the author of confusion my sister. This channel is a blessing to the believers and unbelievers. Bless you for your courage, efforts and time. Praise God! I love how God is using you to edify the women. This also apply to men too. Praying for you & your family. Amen.

I know one thing for sure. I don't wanna be in that roller coaster of emotions because of a guy never ever again. 😏

This came up in my suggestions today and it's something I've been praying on for awhile now. Thanks for making this video

Emily, thank you for this video. I just wanted you to know that I find myself coming back to this video (and your channel) over and over again as a pep talk to myself. I'm in a confusing situation, it's been many months and I still haven't mustered the courage to have the conversation with him, thinking it's never a good time because we still take classes together, there's too much at stake etc. but I know eventually I'll have to get down to doing it because there's only so much longer I can carry on like this. It's consuming so much of my heart and my head and your channel has been a beacon through the mess.

Omg, thank you so much for this. This is exactly what I needed. Sick of not knowing where I am standing with this guy I met a couple of months ago.