Covert Narcissist's Abuse=Coercive Control?

This is absolutely BRILLAINT! Explains it perfectly well. It is about time that this type of narcissist was exposed, explained and understood. Thank you Sam! Slimy, evil, sub humans! I lived with one for 30 years. Please make more on the Covert Passive Aggressive Narcissist!

When I met my covert narcissist husband I was a successful project accountant and assistant business controller. I was nicknamed ' The Iron Lady ' because I was intelligent, strong-willed and very successful in handling difficult person's. After 15 years under his influence I have quit my job, I am living of my early retirement pension because I am so brainwashed I can't work anymore and I am plagued by self doubt, anxiety and depression. A covert narcissist will complete destroy you and use up all your life energy. I managed to escape him and I'm trying to build a new life in the years I have left. I'm 59 years old so I do hope I have a bit of life left after these devastating years. These videos are very informative. I prefer the scientific language of this channel. Especially the covert narcissist is described with great accuracy in this video

The Covert Narcissist part of this is all about my ex-husband.......and then he alienated my children against me and they don't even know that he did it. They practically worship him and have no idea he is a dangerous person............really dangerous.

I barely escaped with my life!!! It is diabolical!

this guy is a genius the accuracy of what he's saying is too damn high !!! he deserves more recognition...🤔

You are describing my mother perfectly. She used to try to tell her friends that I was the troubled daughter. Fortunately for me, her friends could see right through her, and it was obvious I was the scapegoated child, not the troubled daughter. She is ninety one and still can't stop bullying me. I feel so sad for her as she will leave this world not having grown or evolved, at all. Meanwhile, I am living my best life despite her efforts to destroy me!

This describes exactly the covert narcissist I divorced as well as siblings.The horrific realization all along they are only out to destroy you especially when you stand up to them ,refuse to be coercively controlled,and become no use to them.

After discard and over 2 years out , no contact when I listen to you Dr. Vaknin I get chiles and think how lucky am I to be alive. He would walk into the bathroom right with me and watch me. At first it was a joke and I thought how much he must love me not to leave me for a min but now I know how sick and evil this was. I lost my job because of him , friends etc. Thank you for all your work and knowledge , I’m happy again because of the knowledge and understanding I have from your videos.

This is an accurate description of the covert narcissist in my life. He put his daughter against her mother (his ex partner). Then his daughter cut her relationship with her mother. He sacrificed the life of her daughter to destroy his ex. Manipulation reaches a higher level when talking about covert narcissists.

Wow, that’s crazy. Mine didn’t do that, he used the insurance company to accomplish what he wanted. Once again secretive. Almost 6 years later and I’m slowly putting everything slowly together. It’s absolutely the most insane shit I’ve ever been through.😳🙄👈🏻

I was coercively controlled by a psychopathic narcissist for over 40 years, your video has validated my experience, thank you. He was extremely controlling to the point of stalking me in my own home, he literally monitored me 24/7 without rest, yes I couldn’t even use the toilet or shower alone, it was quite literally domestic terrorism. I am finally free.

You just described my ex perfectly. 25 years of hell I could not make sense of. I felt like an abused puppet around him. Once I found out one too many skeletons the more I dug into the secrets the more horrified I was. I saw behind the mask and I was harshly discarded.

Professor I went through this. When you mentioned the bathroom I experienced that. It is such an awful experience I cannot put into words how dehumanizing this is

In a nutshell this video is saying RUN … Listen to Sam Vaknin not just hear !! Thank you for sharing your expert knowledge and saving lives ❤

Hmmm....23 years in this marriage, and I jump every time he opens the door. Interesting. Thank you, Sam, for all your educational content!!

You describe the ex CN in my life to a T. He had a soft and gentle manner, pretended to be right on, caring, hard done by as he soon described a tough childhood where he was neglected but ultimately triumphant as he boasted about his career achievements, financial gains and many sexual conquests. He was a trained masseur, claimed to be into yoga and meditation, a confident salsa dancer, drank little due to his father's alcoholism. A more shallow, fake, callous, manipulative, isolating, passive aggressive and immature person I've never met. When his mask completely slipped, it was a traumatising horror show. Got discarded days later and then he literally hid from me in public. The most bizarre thing I've ever seen.

Spot on!!! Mine escalated to drugging me and almost killed me! I am finally safe from him, but wow!! I went through hell and because he acted so vulnerable and hid it so well I never saw a lot of it. You described my ex perfectly!!😮

6 minutes in and you have already described my ex fiance and how she operates.... Utterly terrifying that you have got the exact behaviour to the letter....

Oh my god. The bathroom stuff. I couldn’t ever take a shower alone. It made me so anxious. I didn’t mind at first until, thought of it like a way to bond. But really it was just control, it was so invasive. It got scary when he he was in a rage…because that was not a barrier.

100% true. Insane how accurate this is, Jesus Christ.