Heal The "Dark Cloud" That Keeps Others From Accepting or Respecting You

You are such a compassionate, tireless worker for individual healing and mental/emotional health. I love how you break everything down into small bite-sized, managable pieces that can be looked at, considered and a plan enacted to calm the reactive nervous system down to level out and not spin out of control and being at the mercy of our trauma and wounds. KEEP DOING YOUR VIDEOS!!!! You are a God-send to people who can not afford the luxury of one-on-one counseling and therapy.

It blew my mind to hear that being chronically late and misjudging the time it takes to get ready in the morning is literally brain dysregulation. All these years I've been so ashamed of myself that I can't seem to do something as simple as leave on time, and now it makes sense. Every time I listen to your channel, I feel like you know me 👏😭👏

Remember three things: You are enough You have always been enough You always will be enough

Anxiety is all I've ever known, started as a child and colored my world. I have no idea about what it would feel like to be without it.

You will never be enough for some people....because their expectations are so unreasonable.

Low self esteem will attract predators. Do background checks!!!!

I have no desire to "impress" people who have no compassion.

I'm naturally quiet which makes people think they can disrespect me but I correct them on that. And I'm not changing myself for anyone.

My being down about myself more often than I thought pushed people away. I was always told, "You are always so negative." "You are always putting yourself down." It also made me an easy mark for people that wanted to take advantage of me.

00:00 🌥 Past trauma can lead to a damaging self-image that affects relationships and hinders healing. 02:15 🐶 Nonverbal cues and nervous system signals communicate our emotional state, even if we try to hide it. 05:33 🔄 Changing small aspects of your life can significantly improve self-esteem and aid in healing. 07:04 🔑 You hold the key to healing your self-esteem, not others who may have caused past trauma. 09:59 🔄 Focus on actions and behaviors to improve self-perception and break the cycle of negative emot

This is so real. I wake up sometimes 40 minutes before my alarm goes off, in a cold sweat of dread and anxiety, even though I know I have plenty of time to get ready. But instead of just getting up and using that extra time productively, I stay in bed and sometimes that even leads to me getting out of bed later than I should and then having to rush to get to work on time. It's clearly dysregulation, and it's crazy.

I cannot seem to connect to anyone. Most people stay away from me. I remember I took a class and a couple girls sat at my table and left within 5 minutes to sit somewhere else. I have always felt inferior. My parents made me feel inferior and then my mom has the nerve to say you have always had an inferior complex. Yeah thanks to them! I can’t even stick up for myself. I know I tried when I was little and got the shit beat out of me.

What helps me: take in lots of healthy food, vitamins, nutritional powders. Stop ingesting soda, sugar, junk food. When you feel better, you act better. When I lose concentration and focus, I tell myself to just do the routine, one step at a time. You know what to do. You have a watch. You know what time it is. Start with plenty of time and put one foot in front of the other. Step 1, 2, 3, 4. Do the same routine every time. Don’t think about it, just do it. I read the Bible every morning. I won’t leave the house without reading it. The Bible is healing and protective. It also gives you a clear head about what God likes and doesn’t like. Nothing got my head together more than reading the Bible and focusing on what God likes. Avoid what he doesn’t like. Stop ingesting negative media. Horror, murder, crime, war, news, things that distress you. If you can eliminate it, eliminate it. Take in soothing sounds and ideas.

This was right on time. Sometimes I think I slip into denial about how much my CPTSD impacts my life. I recently lost my car just a couple weeks after changing my daughter’s school to (hopefully) have a better experience. Since I don’t have my car, I’ve been on the bus & struggling to keep all the things the same about my life (even though I now have to factor in sometimes up to 3.5-4 hours on the bus if they’re late). My kiddo has been late nearly daily, if we make it (in the snow I’ve turned back a couple times). I’ve noticed how the other parents look at me & had grown resentful. I’m the only black parent in the class, the only only parent in all the grade, can I get a break?! 😂 I really reached a tipping point today & decided I wasn’t going to offer any “energy” or light to anyone if I was going to be judged. But this video made me consider how many times I’ve talked about my circumstances at off moments, over-shared bits of info to see if ppl care, and really just made myself the underdog. All my circumstances aren’t my fault but there are changes I personally can make to relieve some of my stress & maybe lighten that cloud a bit. Ty for the reminder 🙏🏾

No words were truer - don’t give away your personal power by relying on other people to make things alright. A tough thing to accomplish for me because I came from a physically abusive home where I was frequently terrified of being severely beaten, or enduring the screams of my brother and sister being savaged. My safety and well being were always enmeshed with the adults in the house. To this day I shake when others are angry. But, I am working on it.

Im tired of my meek, mild stuttery persona I fall into at work because I feel overwhelmed and ashamed at work. It's embarrassing and makes others uncomfortable. All due to my low self esteem.

I'm not ready for this video. At 40 I just realized my Dad is a narcissist and I've been the scapegoat all these years. Personally I don't care if people don't like my energy. I don't like their judgement of my energy.

My healing came in my early twenties (I'm 70 now), after a terrible childhood and chaotic teen years. One day, I happened to notice a fashion magazine, of all things, that featured on the cover a girl who looked somewhat like me. Something just clicked in my brain at that moment, and a plan occured to me. I would shed my dowdy wardrobe and shop for some fashionable clothes. It was a small thing, but change began there with that magazine photo. Many years later I see my life as a series of small changes that all helped me heal. To those suffering low self esteem I say: Find one thing that you do well. It could be something as small as cooking a great meal, but it must be something you truly enjoy. Focus on that thing and keep practicing until you become really good at it. This will build your confidence, and then you can begin sharing your expertise with others. Nothing works to build self esteem better than working toward a goal and succeeding. I hope this helps someone.

Is this why people just mid-sentence talk over me? It's like my speaking is the same as dead air. Like I'm not even there.😂

It's like others have a sixth sense for detecting that all is not well in my world, and they can't get away from me fast enough! I don't expect anyone to want to take the time to get to know me and spend quality time with me. My default position is to expect nothing but rejection and dismissal, and I just kind of silently and solemnly accept it and deal with it.