I Want You to WANT to do the Dishes - The Break-Up | RomComs

They're arguing and she's still cleaning up and he's not still not helping. 😭

What she's basically saying is "if you loved and respected me, offering me help would be a no-brainer. You would think of me and my needs in a way that would make you WANT to do things that help me out, like do the dishes."

It’s a really hard concept to explain to someone if they don’t naturally want to do nice things for their partner

He doesn’t see the big picture, it’s not about the lemons or the flowers or the dishes, it’s the accumulation of everything!

It's pretty simple: if you love someone that badly, doing something simple as helping out with the dishes goes a long way.

Dude I’m 31 now and this is so much more realistic and relatable than I ever thought.

“Are you saying that you’re upset because I don’t have a strong desire to do the dishes?” “No I’m upset because you don’t have a strong desire to OFFER to wash the dishes.” “I just did” “AFTER I asked you” “You’re acting crazy” the definition of gaslighting at its finest

Her last words to him in this scene were sheer perfection. You really do deserve better than a partner who calls you crazy and gaslights you for simply asking for the same respect you give them.

It's a nice touch how she's tidying the dishes throughout the scene while he just stands there.

the classic “you’re acting crazy”

It's nice that she realises she deserved better. Lots of people don't and get stuck in toxic,one sided relationships and could not get out till the end.

When she said I’m done and turned around to stand up for herself, I get emotional. You get sick and tired of being sick and tired

The thing is. No one wants to do the dishes at all. But if someone cooked a whole meal and cleaned the whole house, I couldn’t offer to do their dishes + my own fast enough. It’s just dishes, they’re literally the easiest chore, that person cleaned and cooked!! And when it comes to doing my own dishes, I’m an adult, I can’t imagine leaving them for someone else to clean up. What am I 4 years old 😭

I think many people don’t like this film because it doesn’t have a “happy” ending but I love it because it’s so realistic and relatable.

Just watched this movie again. He brings home 3 lemons and talks his way into making it her problem, she asks him to set the table and have a shower to be ready and he talks longer to get out of it than it takes to set the table, the family arrives and he doesn't help by answering the door or welcoming guests he says he needs a shower, during dinner he looks down on her family and brags about his dreams in the tour industry, her family offers to help clean and he says they will do it to rush them out the door and immediately play his game. Then all of a sudden his dreams that he is working for are for her and she owes him.

It's not about the thing being done, it's about showing your partner that they mean enough to you for you to do things that you wouldn't do otherwise. This is good advice not just for romantic relationships, but any relationship.

A person who lies down on the couch with his shoes on deserves to be single!!

I love how his friend puts it very nicely at the end and he finally understand how selfish he is.

I think Vaughn said that out of all the films he's made, this one holds a special place in his heart. This film has been in my top 10 for years.

I heard a male therapist say that "men are only taught to provide (financially) so they grow up thinking thats what makes them a man. Which is why that is why they seem to lack in other areas"