My Domestic Violence Story | The Ending No One Expected.

What's even worse is when everyone else thinks the guy is so sweet and loving and takes such good care of you and you just want to scream out...how is everyone so blind. 😢

Violence is not only physical, psychological violence is even more destructive...

When the people who love you tell you that the person you're about to make a commitment to is not what you think; listen to them.

I never realized that DV could be emotional abuse until I was out of the relationship. No bruises either, just a decade of emotional abuse,gaslighting, and manipulation. Thankfully I’m in a much better place now ❤️

I’m so glad you shared this. Being bruised isn’t the only thing that means you’re abused. I’m sorry for your loss but thankful you are safe now.

Im 58 and your story was my story 35 years ago. I had 3 children and stayed 15 years. He went to prison for domestic violence against me and the kids and i left for good. I eventually got remarried and we never looked back. Your story resonated so much with me. You’re so strong. Thank you for sharing your story and letting people know these situations are more common than most people know❤

You poor girl. What a terrible experience. Most of us have no idea what's going on behind other closed doors. Well done for speaking out. Well done for getting through it all and still having a beautiful smile for the world.

This so describes my first marriage, he was not emotionally abusive, but could not definitely keep a job and we moved soooooo much. If it wasn't for my 2 kids, I would have left him much sooner. Instead he cheated on me, so thare's that and my way out. Ugh! Hugs to you my sister!

I’m really glad you’re here to tell everybody about it

I am so sorry you went through that. You were manipulated so much. It’s a lot to take in.

First, congratulations for being brave enough to share. Second, I’m so proud of you for putting Kelly first. You are NEVER, NEVER responsible for another persons actions. When someone you love so deeply hurts you so deeply it does something to the love you thought you shared. I was in an abusive relationship for 12 years. We never had children. We moved a lot. He even went to prison and I would go every Sunday to visit, like a good little girl. But, one day I just walked away. Years later I ran into him at McDonald’s. I was with my now husband and two children. He told me he had cancer. I felt nothing. Later, when he died, I felt nothing. I didn’t go to the funeral. Didn’t give condolences to his family. Nothing. This was my very first love. I gave up everything for him. But, after 12 years I came to realize he didn’t give up anything. He didn’t love me. I’m sorry you had to live through this. Im sorry Kelly will never know his biological father. I never knew my biological father, either. But my Daddy that did love me, that gave me his last name, that raised me to be a strong independent woman was the best Daddy ever. And, I believe if Kelly gets the love and nourishment he needs from his father figure he will not become a statistic. Love and prayers to you both. ❤❤❤🙏🙏🙏

Do NOT feel sad about his suicide! I went through something similar, although , as far as I know, he’s still alive. It’s been 38 years and I still have nightmares. I had two sons from a previous marriage and he took advantage of how bad I felt about myself from the divorce. We had a son together who he used as a weapon when I didn’t do what he wanted me to do. I finally had enough and went to a community college to get a better education so I could get a good job. Obviously, my being independent didn’t go over very well. He would use his middle finger and poke me in the middle of my breasts where no one could see. I moved out with my 11 year old son(my other sons had joined the service and were gone). I got a good job and put my son through college. We are strong and resilient!

Thank you Libby for sharing this. Abuse is abuse. You were physically, emotionally, socially, financially, abused. Bruises or no, physical harm or no, abuse is abuse. Also please forgive me for saying so, but if you never went to a memorial service for your abuser, never saw an obituary, etc., wouldn't it be possible his friend lied that he died? In my experience suicidal threats from the likes of him are empty threats and they are there to make the victim feel guilty and responsible for the other person's happiness. When you told your story, i couldn't help but wonder if this was a lie to get him out of being a father to your child. And an attempt to make you feel bad for not complying with his unreasonable demands. A parting shot. But also a way to hurt you even worse if he shows up again later demanding anything like custody or visitation. Again, forgive me. I've simply seen some crazy shit out here and wanted to clue you in to the idea just in case. You may have direct evidence of his death which would make this speculation ridiculous. Regardless of all that paranoid nonsense of mine, you are a strong person and a survivor. Plus you are a fun and vibrant person. Dont give up - you are worth it all!

Thankyou for sharing your brave,,I had an abusive first husband,, controlling and making you feel your not enough,it was mental and physical,and also had affairs,, fortunately I had no children with him, Eventually I left him thank goodness,,,that was over 40 years ago,but you never forget that feeling of fear,I've been married to my 2nd husband now for many years and have 2 grown up children,He is a man ,no proper men abuse women they are just bullies and cowards,I'm glad you are ok now keep strong ❤❤❤

You are amazing! Thank you for giving a voice to things that most think will never come to light but it always will! Thank you for being vulnerable and honest and I respect the hell out of you! Thank you all!

THATS THE FEELING I WOULD GET AS A KID ..I KNEW WHEN IT WAS GOING TO START 😢

I went through something very similar. The love bombing, the gas lightening, the emotional abuse, the financial abuse and the mental abuse. Physical abuse did happen but all the other abuse had a last effect on my mental health. I already had CPTSD and BPD I left with dependent personality disorder. I barely remember anything. It's a big blur. Longest 4 and half years ever.

Oh Libby. I just watched your video 😢. I want to give you a big hug. I admire your strength. I am 4 and a half years out of a narcissistic marriage. We don't see the red flags in the beginning because they are so good at what they do but they can't keep the facade up forever, that is when we start seeing the red flags but their manipulation has you questioning your own sanity. Whenever I questioned my husband about his cheating, I also got the response "you've been having another one of your bad dreams". So yes, I felt your pain. Keep your videos coming, you are amazing ❤️

Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story. You are wonderful and beautiful and your son is very lucky to have such a wonderful Mom! lotsa love. xoxo

I really admire you. You have suffered so much. You have an inner strength that you don't realize you have. You are ready to actually enjoy the ride. The uphill climb is over.