BREAKING THE CYCLE OF INTERNALIZED TRANSPHOBIA

I'm nb transmasc, and I really appreciate the videos you make. They have helped me so much while navigating this very confusing time. I dont really fit within the rest of the trans community, and it's been a huge relief having this safe space to come to and not feel so alone 🖤

You are a very mindful and aware man. I am also FtM (just hit a year on T 🎉) and practicing mindfulness and self compassion has changed my life in so many facets, but I couldn’t imagine my transition without it too. It takes practice to catch ourselves in these patterns-pause, and bring kindness in that moment and it is not linear either. It’s waves, but bringing that awareness, we are able to live the truth of who we are rather than act out of fear. I could really run on about this, haha my point is, you hit it home and I appreciate you sharing this honest wisdom, especially to folks who may not be aware of these concepts. Peace be with you Anyone reading, if you are in the midst of the discomfort that comes with life, to my trans siblings- I see you, know that you belong, just as you are. ❤

Thank you for making this, it’s nice being able to have like actionable steps to take towards processing and overcoming this

I think my main issue with internalized transphobia is feeling like others around me who are out are the role-models for cis people to see, and me being stealth, I am not a role model so I worry about how theses other people are being perceived. and when these other open trans people or early transitioners do things or act in a way that I consider out of line, I find myself getting really railed up internally; avoiding interacting with trans people at all costs at college. I'm never outright an asshole but I can be distant and unresponsive. I'm really not sure how I'll ever get over this issue. I battled with the type of transphobia mentioned in the video but got over it once I went stealth, but now theres this new beast and it's directed at others which (though quietly) is really shitty. If anyone has any advice on that, that would be great. Maybe it could be the next video idea even. I'd love to learn more about how I could work though this. I know I'm not the only one because my partner [MtF] feels the same way

Thank you so much for this upload.

Thanks I really need this video rn

This is a great video, honestly! It's such an important topic many of us struggle with and you've not only explained it really well but also given active steps one can take to start healing.

i really appreciated this video. A lot of good info and made me realize a couple things. Love youre thoughts!

Thank you! I had an awful day today and sadly enough, most of it had to do with my transness so seeing this video really helped me actually feel validated. Keep it up my dude!

It’s really weird for me, not only do successful/good-looking people (like you for example) trigger my dysphoria I also feel bad, fake and inappropriate for trying to work towards being myself it’s not fair, it’s like there is no happiness, there is no light at the end of the tunnel. Hatred that’s been fed to me is somehow deeply ingrained in the opinion of my very essence und there’s just self-loathing and that I will never feel genuine and complete.

Thank you for this video it was very helpful :) the best thing for me was, as you said, to find other trans people who were all different and just being themselves and showed me that being trans isn’t shameful it’s just who we are

This is also works if you are cis and trying to be a better ally, friend or relative. I've been working on changing these thought patterns in myself. I'm a Cis woman though I am Bisexual/pansexual Questioning definitely Biromantic. So I'm part of the larger community. The most important tip is getting to know Trans people and having an honest discussion with them and listening. I have a few trans friends now but still occasionally have negative thoughts that I have to work through to be a better person for them and for me too. Your doing great thanks for your representation keep going.

1000000% agree sir!!!

How did you find other trans people?