Esther Perel: The 3 Attachment Styles & Why You’re Struggling With Love!

Whether you're facing challenges in love, wanting to re-connect with your partner, or curious about the nuances of human connection, this conversation offers invaluable tools to better your connections and understanding. Thank you Esther for this incredible conversation 💛 Can I ask you all a favour? If you enjoy this episode, could you please hit the like button 👍🏾 it helps us massively. Appreciate you all! 🙏🏽

"It's not as much you want to leave the person you are with as much as you want to leave the person that you have yourself become. It's not as much you want to meet another person as much as you want to meet other parts of yourself that have disappeared in your life." oh my days this hit me sooooo hard.

"The death of a relationship is when people start taking each other for granted"! Wow, I couldn't have said that better.

“You go for people who express the part of you you don’t want to deal with.” Bam! Esther Perel is a phenomenal gift to couples and relationships! 🙌

"If you want to change the other, change yourself" gold

37 minutes in and I stopped what I was doing (shamelessly consuming copious amounts of satsumas) and wrote my partner a message of gratitude and my understanding of how I love her. I'm pretty good with self practises but this was a great and necessary emotional nudge. Thankyou.

“Relationship issues are not problems that you solve but paradoxes that you manage”🤯🤯 I had to literally pause to process this. Thank you.

You just gave away a free 2 hr therapy session with one of the most brilliant minds. Thank you.

This is terrific advice for reasonably healthy minded people with high emotional intelligence who simply need educating. Many people however, lack the EQ and empathy to recall and apply these strategies regularly. Bottom line- choose your mate wisely.

One of the best conversations on this channel. A concern: Porn was mentioned about just once or twice in this 2 hour conversation and somehow found its way to the title of it. I know it’s to drive views but I think it’s inappropriate. Views shouldn’t be all that matters. It’s not even the main focus of this conversation. On one flip side, consider the problem this can even impact on driving views: some partners may want to share with the other partner but may reason they might think they’re watching porn and will not share it just to avoid certain negative confrontations. Well, it’s their own relationship issue but porn wasn’t the focus of this insightful discussion. Something to think about. Take care! Edit: Title has been changed to an appropriate one that fits the discussion. Thanks for listening.

Esther: “She’s absolutely right” Steven: whispers “Fuck” 😂🤣😂🤣😂🤣 34:20

Esther is the quintessential cutting edge relationship miracle worker that our generation is gifted with. She is to "my relationship with others" as Gabor is to "my relationship with myself". Both of these humans are angelic in my opinion, and are helping us all get thru this insanely chaotic time, sanely.

What I see Esther saying is that we don’t simply connect and stay connected indefinitely. We have to keep reconnecting. Each partner acknowledging the other is a reconnection point. Of course there must be balance, grace, and considerations but it’s simple to see that the more you lean into the small connections, the better the chance of the relationship enduring. People always say ‘it’s the little things’ and then turn away from the little things that reinforce true connection with their partners.🙃

I squealed with JOY when I saw that Esther is the guest! ❤ Thank you Steve, you’re changing peoples lives !

I’m 59 next week. Have followed this woman for the last 4 years. Fabulous knowledge gained

This episode has made me appreciate my partner so much more. He is my biggest supporter and someone I can always reliably depend on. Everytime I come home from work he's there to greet me with a big warm hug and a triplet of kisses. He pays attention to me when we speak, we have fiery debates but he's somehow always on my side. I have to remember not to take him for granted, as I have a self saboteur hidden in me that presents itself at the happiest times in my life. Thanks for this one

A simple testimony to the impact of connection: My husband and I have been married for 23 years. 3 kids. Started a small business. Death of my adored father who had Alzheimer's and I helped with his care, his beloved grandma died, my beloved grandma died. Our oldest son was diagnosed with autism and ultimately died in his sleep at 19. Money struggles. Friendship ups and downs. He has had a health struggle culminating in needing a pacemaker. So. Much. Struggle. So much pain and heartbreak but also so much joy. We adore each other totally and passionately. How did all of the problems not tear us apart? We turn to each other. We talk. Multiple times a day we simply say we love each other or we kiss or we check in or we call or we send a text and EVERY NIGHT we cuddle and talk about what is on our heart, what happened that day, whatever and usually end up having sex or at least making out. Physically connected and emotionally connected. Our connection has kept us alive and okay. How else do we survive losing our son? Our family? The challenges of autism? If you love you talk and you touch throughout every day. It's basic.

"Esther why are you shouting at me?"😂😂 This is just precious. I love this. Thank you for this podcast. Very eye opening.

She was an obvious guest to this podcast. I knew it was just a matter of time. She really is magic. She observes and sees details in things with such ease and incredible clarity. As a psychiatrist, I'm amazed by her therapy skills. I know she studied, worked hard but it always seems to me like she was just born this way, with knowledge and experience. I haven't watched this episode but I'm certain I'll love it. And that my comment won't change.

The diary of a CEO is the best podcast out there. I have seen at least 20 episodes and they are all 🔥. Each time I think that its my favorite one too. The quality of guests are unmatched. I love how it's intellectually based and not argumentative. If you want to get your knowledge up and get empowered to understand yourself and the world better, make sure you tune in often.