Revealing the Hidden Factor That Keeps You Trapped in Complex PTSD

Thank you and this is why "forgiveness" doesn't solve the problem of abuse.

Thank you, my mum was a highly emotionally abusive narc. I have complex ptsd x Edit: it took me until the age of 42 to understand that I had this. I thought there was just something fundamentally wrong with me before that. I was so traumatised I didn’t consciously understand that I’d been abused for years, though my mum would scream at me or not speak to me for a week and shut me in a room.

Jane’s story is very similar to mine. I had an alcoholic and physically abusive dad, and can definitely relate to becoming “numb to the beatings”. It’s as if once you become numb, you also become broken. When I was younger, I had zero knowledge of psychology, therapy, or trauma, but now that I’m in my 40s, and I’m learning more about C-PTSD, it all makes sense. When it comes to becoming aware of your trauma, I reckon it’s better late than never, but, I can’t help but wonder what could’ve been if I had this knowledge at a younger age, smh. I’m never married, no kids, and now that I’m 3 years sober, I can’t stop ruminating about the past. Now I see why drugs and alcohol are so popular amongst those with trauma, it really silences your mind. I’m sure I need to see a therapist or find a support group, but, honestly, I just haven’t embraced the idea of bringing all this stuff up to a group of strangers, the comment section seems much safer, lol, thanks for video.

When the psychiatrist diagnosed my PTSD in 2012, I was confused, I thought only military personnel suffered from that. He didn't call it Complex PTSD, he said the domestic violence triggered it, but then asked me to remind him when I first started caring for my chronically-sick & disabled mother. I was 10 years old. He said it had been waiting in the wings, ready for a situation like domestic violence to trigger my PTSD symptoms. I answered "yes" to both questions, "has that been traumatic" & "has that been stressful"? I won't forgive either of my parents for exposing me to that from such a young age. Weeks at a time off school, looking after her, my 2-yr-old sister & infant brother, the house & everything in it, it was all my responsibility. They incessantly used, abused, scapegoated & discarded me. On a regular basis, all 3 siblings jumped on that bandwagon. At age 13, deciding that if they didn't care about me, my schooling, my future prospects, neither did I, starting to vanish from home, doing things a 13-yr-old should not be doing, a duty social worker at the police station said, obviously to get me to stop misbehaving, "if you carry on like this, they'll take you away, they'll put you in care". "Care", I thought, "what, with people that actually CARE"? From then on, I was hell-bent on being taken away, the cycle was broken then. The years in the children's home were the best of my childhood. At times, I want to be back there. But I was hoovered back by the time I was 18. Back in the same toxic relationships I had sought to escape. They made me hate, no, despise myself, blaming me for every single thing that went wrong & every time I buckled under the strain - scapegoated & discarded, again. I've been free of them all since 2014. Free of my abusive "father" for 17 months. Peace, should be what I'm feeling, but they did me a lot of harm for a long time. This is going to take time. Without the millstone round my neck, that my "family" once were, it's time I got plenty of! Thank you, Janelle, for this excellent video.

I have strange feeling, that you know me in person 🙂 Keep up the good work. Greetings from Germany 🇩🇪

I've been learning about CPTSD for a couple of years now. I've read some of the books you shared also. But in this video, you have done a truly excellent job of summarising the impact of CPTSD. Thank you! 👏👏👏

Being a ( retired) NHS high intensity therapist, this is good. I rarely say this with utube clips.

Ok. I get in CPTSD but why nobody talks about metodology or step by step approach how to overcome. This is just informative but what we are suppose to do with it? Why nobody is helping out with overcoming that issue? Is there any person who got healed from CPTSD? I f yes please specify who? Are we going to go around into circles just talking about this issue and not seeing the real change and overcome this issue forever? What's the point of everything? Just gathering information can not heal us. Why dont you give some constructive suggestion how to heal?

It's really nice to feel validated. I've been beating myself up about how I'm not good enough lately.

This is EXCELLENT! So few understand!

I've been removed from this since 2018. I moved back to Chicago. my family went to georgia and has been there since 2005. These were the worst years of my life until i left for chicago 2014. I had reactionary abuse in 2018. it's what made me say i can't stay or ever go back. I've been gone since then. My mom still ropes me in with her complaining or calls at 3 am. crying about what goes on. im struggling up here, and now my sister lives with me, so im dealing with her issues and unresolved trauma from home she doesn't acknowledge. But I'd rather be here struggling then being abused and going crazy with them. I'm finally seeing there may be "light at the end of the tunnel"

I really really love this video. It's informative and minimalistic, easy to comprehend, and despite having ADHD, it kept my attention nearly the whole way through. Such a well put together video and you really seem to know your stuff

Yes and I may also have head trauma

Thank you! Thanks for pointing out what people didn't get who go through this.

This speaks to me. I did not know this is what CPTSD til now. Thank you for making this video. Everything in that video says that is what I am going through righ now and all of my adult life.

You're great, thank you for this clear and organized presentation. It really resonates with me!

Thank you so much. You've explained it so well. So much empathy and sensitivity. I've heard other explanations online but they weren't as sensitively explained and often made me feel guilty or less than. This vlog made me have more compassion to myself. Explained my childhood so well.

Love this video pointing out the things we didn’t get as kids. Since getting group therapy I have been making strides but it’s hard to access mental health care that actually helps. What I would find helpful is a hardcover workbook with some paragraphed on things to do like exercises to move forward into a person who treats myself better or feels better. But that’s as someone who has had some therapy and is working through that information on my own. I think CPTSD can make large books on tough subjects seem overwhelming

Thank you sooo much for blessing us with this video. 👌🙌

I am so grateful the algorithm suggested your video and I was thrilled to find a POC as the creator! I’ve already hit the subscribe button. This was beautifully composed, I particularly appreciated your ability to convey an enormous amount of information in such a concise way. What I also liked was the examples that were our experience but at least for me I never bothered to remember those aspects of my childhood. It did bring me to tears hearing those experiences mentioned which I feel I must have minimized the impact otherwise why would I be moved to tears as you mention it and think of that child that all of that was my lived experience and thus normalized. I hold so much compassion, empathy, and chagrin for my parents as they have their own profound stories and did everything possible to provide us a good life. I look forward to listening to your other content and the growth of your channel!