The Paradox of Being Nice

"it was a strange paradox of narcissism and self-abandonment." This felt so relatable

I've come to understand that when I'm driving alone in my car, alone at home, on a bike ride is when I am free to be. I can act like a goofball or get angry, sing very loud, cry, laugh like a crazy lunatic. There's no one to judge me, criticize me, nor do I have to put a false face on.

The idea of behaving how others expect you to is a common theme in your videos. I can relate. I don't often speak up when I disagree with someone. I hope one day I will.

The Japanese believe there are 3 faces everyone puts on in their lives. 1 face is for the general public, one is for friends/family and the final is strictly for when no one is around, and that one is your TRUE face.

Really touching and makes you think. This video shows how sometimes, even after many years, we may not know everything about someone we care about. It's a big reminder to enjoy every moment and get to know each other better.

"Just be yourself" that's the neat part, I'm not even sure of who I'am, I feel like Im everything, yet I see myself as nobody, I don't know if Im peaceful person, or if I have anger issues, I don't even know who I want to be, I just feel like Im walking around without a goal in life, just stealing oxygen from others

As someone who has nobody to talk to, I can confirm that I will die without having any conversation.

"Be who you really are. There's still time. Use it!"

"That's not a good person. It's not a bad person. It's just not much of a person at all." Bro, you really made me cry with that video. So much thankful from Brazil, I loved it

“Suspect each moment, for it is a thief, tiptoeing away with more than it brings.” -John Updike

After surviving a serious illness, I can relate to that feeling like you're living through stolen days you weren't meant to, like you somehow cheated death. It's a surreal feeling. Almost like in some kind of afterlife, that life itself has become a dream. It eventually wore off after a few months.

I remember the moment I started being 'myself' I lost many people who treated me badly but said they were my friends and I also gained a lot of respect from people who just knew me, now I can proudly say that people don't pick me apart and I am not butt of the joke as I don't play nice anymore. I always wanted people to think of me certain ways but with age I realised all this is just a facade where I want to feel superior to others and want to uphold myself according to MY moralistic ideals while looking down on others.

There's a balance to EVERYTHING. On the plus side of being nice, you don't really make any enemies who can potentially endanger you. You can also ask for small favors if you are close enough friends. On the negative side of being nice, you lose time for yourself and can eventually be caged by society's expectations, especially if you go too far in being nice to every single person around you. Always try to balance things. Of course, it's easier said than done.

This has to be one of my biggest problems in life. The thought of having to cater to the wants and expectations of others instead of my own would have me lying down in a sort of a depressive episode for periods of times. I just really wish I didn't care, about what others think of me or what others expect me to want to do.

Why do human feelings have to be so complicated :(

This is what we all need to be reminded of. Can't thank you enough for voicing out what I have been struggling with for the past five years perhaps. I really needed to hear this to overcome my insecurities and constant concern to be the perfect human in everybody else's eyes.

So this video talks about how we are wasting our lives living for other people, to be good enough for them, to be the best in their eyes, to be the most successful in their eyes that we are losing ourselves and who we actually are, what we want. However, a paradox that I believe exists is, the ones who are actually massively successful in our eyes, actually did what they did NOT for us but for themselves. I have heard so many singers say their biggest hits were the ones that they didn't care about would do well and made it at a time they were truly themselves. It's like a weird paradox that even I have seen in my life. The more I am myself, I get the best of ideas, the best of opportunities. It's like this universe works in my favour when I'm being myself in my work. You can actually be the best in people's eyes when you actually try and be the best in your own eyes, in your own way.

This channel consistently BLOWS my mind. I’m serious I almost have a lifestyle/personality crisis every time a video as moving as this one comes out. The appreciation I have for Robert Pantano’s work is immeasurable. I hope these videos bring families and friends together and make them closer by exploring what it means to be human ❤

This has to be the best thing I've watched this year... And I'm going to be watching this over and over again... Thank you so much...

“a strange paradox of narcissism and self-abandonment.” Thank you for summarizing exactly what I’ve been feeling these past few years for me, I could never find a way to put it in words whenever I thought about it.