The Toxic World of Self Help: Hustle Culture, Toxic Positivity, Addiction, and Fake Gurus.

IMPORTANT CLARIFICATION/CORRECTIONS: I want to preface this by saying that I don’t think the entirety of the self-help industry is bad – and as some of you have rightly pointed out, not all the fault should be given to the industry itself, consumers of the industry need to take accountability for their actions as well. Self-help has benefited me greatly, but only when I approached it from a place of not using self-help as a “quick fix” for motivation and happiness –this video was intended to look at various traps that people can fall into if they use this industry in the wrong way, which I had been doing previously. I realise now that there must be a BALANCE – both your consumption and action must have a symbiotic relationship, and a combination of both can make self-help something that could prove to be genuinely useful. So with that in mind, see this video as a look into the aspects of self-help that have been taken and misused by both the producers and the consumers of the industry, but not a hit piece on the self-help industry as a whole. Hope this clarifies things! 🙏 Edit #1: Also, when I say “my first year in college” in this video I am referring to sixth form (US equivalent of grades 11/12) - we sometimes call this “college” in the UK. Edit #2: I was harsh when including clips of Gary Vaynerchuk in this video! - Although I didn't mention him by name specifically, I did imply that he was somehow a negative influence of the "self-help" community. Gary V is actually very outspoken against certain aspects of the self-help industry that I've referenced to in this video, and he is a legitimate entrepreneur who profits mostly from his media company, not from self-help. By no stretch of the imagination should he be pegged in the same category as "guru's" like Grant Cardone - this was definitely a mistake on my part. Edit #3: I recommended Echarte Tolle's "The Power of Now" book at the end of this video. I want to emphasise that whilst I enjoy this book for its philosophy on mindfulness, and bringing awareness to your thoughts, I do belive that are many elements of the book that are "woo-woo" and pseudoscience. Bare that in mind if you ever purchase his book.

My father always says “If working hard was to make anyone rich, construction workers would be the richest men in the world” Edit: You really think the world consists of the 1st world country where you lay your comfortable asses at? People working at construction are suffering all around the world, stop saying “they make good money” etc. They work under minimum wage and even worse, there is still slavery in the world, did you know that?

"Sleeping eight hours a day? that's a third of your life!" Yes, but it's the best third dude!

this comment section is more valuable than any self help book.

Life is so much better when your parents teach you early on how to detect BS before you’re standing in it. Mom, Dad—for the millionth time—thank you.

After reading about a dozen self-help books you'll start to realize that they all pretty much consist of the same content.

“A patient healed is a customer lost.” This is the mindset of the self care industry.

The problem we have is because Most people always taught that " you only need a good job to become rich " . These billionaires are operating on a whole other playbook that many don't even know exists.

After consuming 3 years of self improvement I got understanding of this: i don't need 100 gurus, i need 1 guru, i don't need 100 books, i need 1 book, i have to take 100 actions, from that 1 book.

Toxic positivity is a huge one that in culture globally, people have now ended up shaming others for being real rather than “positive” .

Reading self-help books can be in itself a form of procrastination.

"Say no to Motion and say yes to Action." Indeed, I've heard this from other mentors as well. We can do things that feels like a progress but it wasn't. Like reading books, listening to podcast, watching educational videos is also a form of procrastination, because instead of putting your knowledge into action you get stuck doing these stuff. Very DANGEROUS and not everyone is aware of this.

What he said at 8:47 made me realize that unhappy people like myself are like a dying cancer patient desperately trying to find the best doctor in town, only to then waste more money on different types of treatments and pills, but never resolving the root cause. Sure, they may take away the pain temporarily and give us a sense of progress, but eventually, our wallets run empty and we're left with nothing except complete hopelessness.  What a dark world we live in...

Advice from my father: "How you get good at something isn't what you do when you're motivated, it's how you persevere when you aren't."

"If you want self help why would you read a book written by somebody else? That's not self help, that's help." Thanks George.

It took me being hospitalized, diagnosed Lyme disease, and shutting down the doors to my business to realize that I had been ignoring the "negative thoughts" and just needed to think more positively. In reality I was deeply trying to communicate with myself that I was unbearably unhappy doing what I was doing. I worked myself right into the ground at 29 and nearly lost everything. I think one of the main reasons that my body became susceptible to sickness is that I had drained the life out of it and was physically and emotionally exhausted. 18 months later and I'm still learning this difficult lesson. Self help obfuscates the work that needs to be done internally and makes it feel like you are doing inner work. That you are changing. You are not changing you are just becoming someone that you will recognize less and less.

It’s also occurred to me that the self help industry preys on people who don’t love or believe in themselves. They are trying to provide results and answers which an individual can only find in themselves. In other words, no one else can live your life for you. No one else outside you knows your needs or can fulfill them. Each persons truth comes from their own heart which cant be replaced by advice or instructions from anyone else. Intuition is free of charge✨💛💯💯

“If you’re looking for self-help, why would you read a book written by someone else?” —George Carlin

My grandpa told me one thing that sticks with me to this day: "Always chase that next horizon, but don't stare directly into the sun." This means that, while you should strive for self improvement, do not lose yourself doing so. Stay true to who you are, even if everyone doesn't like you for it.

"If truth Kills them ,let them die" Thank you Sir for this enlightenting video