The ONE Trick You Need to Master to Live a More Peaceful and Fulfilled Life | Mel Robbins Podcast

Somebody taught me this years ago. They said, "let them do what they WANT to do, so you can see what they'd RATHER do." Game changer.

“When people show you who they are, believe them.” - Maya Angelou

The older you are, the easier the “let them” theory is to manage. It’s called wisdom and picking your battles wisely.

I realized there’s another side to this “let them” mindset. My fiancé is quite different from anyone I’ve ever been with. He is very attentive, thoughtful and always doing things to show his love. Having been a single mom for many years, I will often say, “I can do that!” or “I’ll take care of that.” when he starts doing something I would normally take care of or mentions something he’s going to do for me. I need to remember this “let them” response when he’s trying to show his love and care in these ways. “Let them” show their love and simply be grateful and appreciative! ❤️

I lost so called friends after my brother was killed last summer. They just stopped inviting me to anything and cut communication with me. For a while I was really upset but then I realized that a decent person who actually cares about me would not have acted this way. It also reminds me they have done this behavior on and off for years before this and I kept fighting to be included and getting hurt when they excluded me. I'm done trying to prove that I'm worth loving (trauma response.) Either like me for me or don't.

Let Them = God grant me the serenity To accept the things I cannot change; Courage to change the things I can; And wisdom to know the difference. Got it ❤

I found this episode at just the right time in my life. 24 hours after watching this, on my 52nd birthday, I got “Let them.” tattooed on my wrist so I can look at it and remember.
Thank you.

My husband has been threatening to leave me for 10 years but never left.

He has always been emotionally unavailable so my son and I were never allowed to share our feelings because crying/being sad would trigger him so bad he would get angry and then threaten to leave. He had a habit of quitting so kept threatening to leave in every argument but did nothing to make it work. I put up with his behaviour because I kept focusing on the potential of what might be.

I kept coming back with compassion for the childhood he had and excused his behaviour. His parents beat him when showing emotions.

I tried to get him to see his behaviour and get help but he blamed me for his anger and thought I was the problem so won't get help.

Just watching this I realised it's time to let go. I can't make him heal. I can't wait around for him to wake up. The fact that he keeps saying it but doesn't leave makes me feel he's afraid of abandonment too. So I held on.

Unless I take the first step he's not going to.....it's time to let them go. I'm sorry for holding on for so long.

It's time to be free and receive what I deserve.

All she said was "Let them" I'm not 10 minutes in and I'm in tears. ❤ I'm fighting for my husband and He's just not changing as he promised. I get it and I can walk away now.

Letting people be has been one of the best things to happen to my mental health. It's absolutely wonderful to feel free

I have been moving this way for years. And I’ve been preaching it to people - Each person is responsible for themselves and I’m not going to spin my wheels trying to force people to behave the way I think they should. I let them do what they’re doing and if somehow it impacts or involves me, I will decide what to do at that juncture. But I always, always prioritize my peace. At all costs!

This is the best way to rid oneself of emotional dependency and codependency!💪🏻

Your "Let them" turned into a "Let ME"....as in "Let ME" have less stress , less worry and more freedom! Thank you! I needed that without the guilt. 💙

Yes, this is so helpful. Going through a divorce rn, I just realized everyone moves on with their lives. People check in on you here and there but at the end of the day, you have to do the work and healing. People won't always be there, but you are there with yourself all the time. So love yourself and take care of yourself.

No expectations no disappointments. Has been my moto for decades. The best peace of mind I've ever had. Walk in a higher frequency. Mrs. G

I came across this pod cast and WOW!!! What a game changer for me . Been dealing with adult step children who do not want to include me as my spouse’s partner . I have let it hurt me snd drive my anxiety through the roof . Now I will “ let them “ have get together without me, “ let them” be judgemental, “ let him” - my spouse decide where he wants to be and spend his time , and I will allow myself to let it all go and get on with doing things with my family and things that bring me joy and happiness . Just listening to the podcast brought a sense of peace over me. Thank you!!!!

I’m a 70 year old grandma and I’ve lived by (what’s now obviously called) the ‘let them’ theory nearly all my life. I think it probably came from my parents who had a fairly relaxed attitude to life.Far less stressful than any other way 😂😂🇬🇧 The French know it as Ce La Vie 😂😂👍🇬🇧🌷

"in a relationship with their potential" I felt that one😊

18:15:00 3 times to NOT do let them
1) if they are doing something dangerous
2) you need to advocate for your rights
3) they are crossing your boundaries

I used to have the saying "the moment you stop worrying what other people think of you, is the moment you set yourself free"! This "let them' podcast however, is the most freeing of them all and has helped me through a difficult decision I've just had to make. Thank you!!!!!! 😊 x