Never Let Go Of Someone With These 9 Character Traits

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Published 2021-01-07
Are you still looking for a soulmate? Or have you found the one yet? Though the advent of dating applications has made the search for “the one” easier, not every relationship works. Finding “the one” has become difficult. Scientists have spent years trying to figure out the best qualities a potential suitor needs to bring into a relationship to make it a happy and long-lasting relationship. For those fortunate enough to find themselves in a long term relationship and are thinking of settling down, it might be worth watching this video to see if your special someone has any of these character traits!

If you found this video helpful, but are still doubtful about whether they are the one specifically for you, we have a video on that too:    • 10 Signs You've Found The ONE  

Writer: Sara Del Villar
Script Editor: Isadora Ho
Script Manager: Kelly Soong
VO: Amanda Silvera
Animator: Maxine Gando
YouTube Manager: Cindy Cheong

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All Comments (21)
  • @Psych2go
    What is one character trait that you value the most? Comment below! Let see what others have to say :)
  • @kero.j
    " If someone makes you happy, make them happier. "
  • If you got someone who is: • Never gonna give you up • Never gonna let you down • Never gonna run around and desert you • Never gonna make you cry • Never gonna say goodbye • Never gonna tell a lie and hurt you Then you better treat them right because they've been doing that to you. You know the rules, and so do they.
  • @Artistbrits
    7 years with my husband who has all these qualities. Our relationship is always warm, peaceful and calm.
  • @chanamand
    1. They emotionally and mentally support you 2. They engage in your personal growth 3. They are emotionally intelligent 4. They are understanding 5. They are kind 6. They are respectful (of your opinions, experiences, boundaries) 7. They know how to compromise 8. They accept your flaws 9. They share your core values (marriage, family, religion)
  • @Amaryllis-4U
    I think this list can apply not only to romantic partners but to close friends and family as well.
  • @kowalchukm
    don't forget that "accepting someone's flaws" does not mean you need to tolerate flawed behavior that negatively impacts you. Toxic or malicious behavior is not a "flaw" you need to accept. I had someone who acted this way and I was always told by him that I should "love and accept him the way he is" which would include accepting lies, manipulation, control, narcissism, cheating..the list goes on.
  • @ICEcoldJT
    “You deserve someone who’s gonna treat you like you matter everyday. Not just when it’s convenient for them.” 🙏🏽
  • @PlanetPsych
    All you u need is some1 who loves your weirdness, wants to spend time with you and most importantly, respects you
  • I found someone I like a lot, but we both agreed we are better as friends. Doesn't have to just be romantic relationships, guys. Find these people in general, they are literal life savers!
  • @Nanamka
    These qualities are gold not only in partners, but in friends too. Cherish such people in your life. They are a real blessing.
  • Alternative title: 9 traits that you should strive to achieve, in order to be a good partner. Edit: so it's been 8 months and I actually have been trying to put into practice what I said here. Although my partner and i have been together for 9 years, within just this past year we have grown so much closer by just by really trying to put ourselves in each others shoes. In the beginning I used to get upset at my partner because I felt like I was always giving more than they would give back. Instead of telling them this I would lash out and became petty and passive agressive. but now things are different, we still fight but we always try to express exactly what this issue is instead of blaming each other. If you are having a hard time finding someone, my advice to you is look for somone who is willing to learn but don't also forget to be willing to see things though their eyes. Sometimes you will fight and when you do really listen to what they are saying before calling them out on their insecurities, they may need your help when no one else can provide it.
  • @koolgurl402
    Not only is this important for couples but it’s also important for friendships
  • This made me realize my ex isn’t a narcissist and neither am I. We met after suffering narcissistic abuse and were there for each other for a long time, but we have different values and goals and neither of us is wrong for wanting what we want.
  • @LarryPanozzo
    26 years I’ve been with someone with these crucial qualities. And that person…is me. ❤
  • @kele4135
    I love people who are kind to everybody. It's important for me to see how they treat others, no matter their status. I wouldn't want someone around who is only nice when there is something in return.
  • @Hyderagean
    When you watch this video because you miss somebody, just to realize that YOU were the one who should've been held on to... 👌
  • Number 9 is so very important. After a divorce from a man who showed none of these character traits, I vowed that I would only get involved with a person who shared my values. I started to date a guy at church (I'm a Unitarian), but he was all show and no substance. He, too, lacked many of the characteristics shown in this video as well as a few values that I found to be important. Not to be deterred, I still kept my eye out as I continued to live my life. It didn't take very long. I had to do some training for work. The instructor was interesting, and the other students in the class seemed to have a high regard for him. After the training was over, we started talking about politics. I could tell from his position on the issues that he shared some values in common with me. It turned out that he thought that I was attractive, and we started dating. I've been with him now for over 15 years. It's the best relationship that I have ever had. Hold out for someone who shares your values. You'll be glad that you did! ~ Anastacia in Cleveland