Stop Lying To Yourself (DEF04)

I'm responsible for everything in my life. Say that to yourself before you get out bed everyday.

Jocko- My bro-in-law who is retired , 20 years special forces Air Force gifted me the DEF book... years ago... I can see how it helps Men... and my discipline back when I was in my 40's paid off big time. Now in my early 60's ... I'd have to say these things help me WITH the discipline: Gratitude (for a small home) Minding my own business-(sort of speaking) Solitude There are 2 kinds of speaking- (partially from a book) : Commencement Speaker vs. 1 on 1 choosing your words wisely and listening. Apparently some people dislike others who are constantly in "Commencement Speaker" mode- you feel me. Keep up the great work- great podcast Mike in Pennsylvania

“You are the General and the Soldier”. Kill. Love it. Thank you

"Success will test a man as surely as the strongest adversary."

Thanks for your Service. We appreciated it.

All that comfort seeking behavior could be a sign of depression. Comfort itself can be a trap, an addiction, etc... This is where religion, spirituality, and personal development can help you figure out what you want to look like in the world and what you want the world to look like.

I have DEF manuals , I really appreciate it Jocko when you eloborate further on the topics 🙌🏻

You are the general and the soldier, Discipline is immediate willing obedience to all orders from yourself. Don’t lie to yourself, Comfort brings Lies. Don’t question the general.

One time my aunt asked me "Arent you feeling lazy or resentful when it is time to do chores?" And i was genuinelly puzzled - why would I feel that way? All the stuff is for my own benefit plus i find it enjoyable. Fast forward sevetal years and I am incapacitated by a chronic illness. It hurts so much to do these things now and the discipline is in letting the chores pile up. There is now a battle between my mind and my body. I want to do things so much but I cannot. Now I do feel resentful and wonder if being lazy is the state of your mind and your body not being aligned.

So inspiring 🙏🙏 avid listener from the UK 🇬🇧🇺🇸🇬🇧🇺🇸

Okay I signed up, I'm in. A bit scared and intimidated for reasons I won't bother to mention but I am thankful for the opportunity to get some things in my life squared away with a push and help of leaders I respect. ...Here we go!

“Hard Work Sets You Free”

Ah the immediate excuse came in my mind that "oh well, I got in an accident and my PT says I need to relearn how to walk properly before I can get back on the kickboxing mat," but I've been holding on to that excuse for the last two months and it makes me feel like shit, so I'm telling my physical therapist I'm going back to training today. I also see how I've been using my chronic illness as an excuse to sleep and rest more each day, but when I give in to the fatigue and stop fighting against it, I end up feeling terrible and can't do everything I need and want to do simply because there's not enough time or energy to get the stuff done since sleeping/resting saps my energy and drive to do stuff when I'm awake. It's a tricky balance because I've pushed myself genuinely too hard and ended up in the hospital, but coddling myself isn't doing me any favors either.

Good video. I was wracking my brain thinking what else could possibly be making a happy person feel like they need more discipline? It might actually be he really is happy but he learned this mindset that he could never be good enough. I remember this church I used to go to where the pastor was very authoritarian and preached as though God was always disgusted and disappointed in you, even when you were sincere and obedient to God. After a while people started to feel like God was always unhappy with them, they could never be good enough, and God would always be a mystery no matter how sincere they cried out to Him. This caused a lot of self doubt in people and in their own salvation. Once people started leaving this influence most of them started to have a much more balanced and honest view of themselves. I know this other person that grew up in a legitimate cult. The cult wasn't like those Hollywoodized TV and movie cults. In this real cult everyone moved into this private trailer park and eventually the ministry started abusing people (nothing sexual). Beating kids and such. It was the single older women and widows who blew the whistle on everything. So this guy got out of this cult when he was a kid but he says he still battles some unhealthy mindsets, like feelings of inferiority and such.

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Most people can "truly" do better, and yes, they actually believe that. And guess what, they may not take the actions necessary to "do better", and - they are still fine. There is no "need" to be the best possible version of yourself, for whom and for what? If you are doing alright, and are content or even happy with where you are at right now, why changing? Usually change or even improvement comes with a certain risk. Goals set too high may actually harm.

Wish I was born with level 7 discipline

Thank you very much!

Nothing wrong with occasionally skipping discipline. Give some fun and relaxing time for yourself or you can burn out. Been there.

“Comfort breeds lies and breeds a lack of discipline” wow🤯