Abandon Narcissist's "Inner Child" Before it KILLS YOU! (Developmental Delay, Age, Amnesia)

Frightening as very few people can turn their backs on a 'child'

It grows old after time, because they only care about their own needs loke a real child. You can't have a relationship with a child. He wanted to be looked after, have his own way, be adored and cuddled. I felt like a mother for a long time before I worked out what he was doing, and he withdrew any partner intimacy.

My ex husband’s voice changed all the time. I knew when he had his child voice I had to end the conversation while he was in this submissive state. I even pointed his voice change out to him multiple times and his response was always “what do you mean” in an even younger tone. It did not make me want to coddle him. Instead I felt very uncomfortable as an adult trying to get a toddler to be an adult. That would be inappropriate and so I would just stop and handle the adult situation or need on my own.

I am 100% onboard with this analysis. My father was a narcissist and I have dated 4 narcissistic men as I felt I could help them, wanted to make things better for them. At 50yo now I have spent my romantic life with only these people at a gigantic cost to myself. I am in healing now. The last guy was a 50yo child. He never grew up, was angry, jealous, paranoid and contemptuous of everything. Being close to him I felt the void so clearly as like a black hole he gave off no energy. The relationship was was pure torture in it's clearest form and it made me say. No more. This is destroying me. 2 years out tomorrow and I am thriving in my goals and healing my own wounds. Narcs are dangerous, they should come with labels saying they are poisonous. I felt nothing coming from the narcissist and didn't know why. Now I know. Thank you.

mantra for protection : there´s nobody, but a hologramm on top of eternal emptyness/ empty nest

Dear professor Vaknin, I don’t know how to thank you about this video and the way you explained one of the most difficult parts after I broke up with a narcissist… it was horrible to feel that I abandoned a damaged child. Your contribution to understand the deepest aspect of this relationship is enormous! After three years I have broken up and I am still single I feel I have still post traumatic things and I have still connection with the shared fantasy…. I have worked a lot but I find layers and layers during my therapeutic process. You are a unique specialist please continue to educate us!! thank you thank you

This title hit so close to home. I was clinging to my ex, ignoring my mental health completely just to avoid hurting her

Emotional 10 year old. I want a relationship with a grown up that knows their own mind and can share who they actually are, not some mask. It's been fake everything for 2 years.

Wow! This video is a real eye opener! It explains my unhealthy mommy role with my narcissistic husband of 30 years. And, the guilt I feel when I think of leaving him.

I felt like the mother, the therapist and eventually the man! I don’t want to be any of those things in my relationship, I want to be the women with my feminine energy in a relationship with a grown man in his masculine energy. I want an adult relationship with genuine trust, love, kindness, understanding and respect.

My mother did that to me every time I was leaving she started to be helpless she shapeshifting nonstop .

There is nobody there. (No access to positive emotions. Only destructive defenses.) Lovely, is how you provide clarity to the narcissists’ delusion, who works to get you to buy in to their “mutual” fantasy. Thank you, for lighting up this mine field. Peter Pan never grows up, dead inside. Flee. Look forward and flee, never looking back. Love to you, very good sir. With gratitude. I can confidently say that you have made my day❤

There are a lot of Channels about Narcissism but Mr. Vaknin is number one! Mr. Vaknin goes in depth on why they behave the way they do! Amazing work! 👏🏻

🎉 Congratulations Sam. I could not think of a more deserving Specialist as you. I have never known anybody who has the fountain of information that you possess and the accuracy of which you deliver it. I am much more enlightened because of it.

Leaving the narcissist was heart wrenching. He seems so fragile. I struggle with the guilt sometimes. I’m a mother so I definitely felt pain walking away.He would have shattered my soul

When my narc tried to come back after a breakup. She would use the sweet child like voice to get me back.. it does work.😮

WOW, this gets rid of the "smoke and mirrors" confusion very quickly ... thank you Prof for your clear explanation of this subject matter !!

Thank you Sam for helping me understand the needy broken child in my sister. It gets to the point where it is not about saving the shared fantasy but saving yourself.

Interestingly: Over-indulged by his over-protective mother, only-surviving twin Elvis Presley engaged in "baby talk", glib charm, control, grooming, conditioning, promiscuity, addictions/substance abuse, entitlement, isolation, need for an entourage in full-servitude to himself at his beck-&-call, extreme black & white thinking, enjoyed reactions of recipients of his surprise gift-giving, & other narcissistic traits.

I feel very sorry for my ex girlfriend who is a covert narcissist. It breaks my heart that she went through so much abuse and trauma as a child. She told me about her narcissistic mother and what she did to her and how her mother was jealous of her father’s relationship with her and stopped the father being close with her. I was abused by my girlfriend but I don’t hate her I just can’t ever go back to her because of what she is capable of doing to me. I hope that one day with modern science they find a cure or something to help the narcissist. 🙏🏻