Dr. James Hollis: How to Find Your True Purpose & Create Your Best Life

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In this episode, my guest is Dr. James Hollis, Ph.D., a Jungian psychoanalyst, renowned educator and author on finding and pursuing one’s unique purpose. Dr. Hollis is also an expert in the psychology of relationships and healing from trauma. We discuss how early family dynamics and social context create patterns of both adaptive and maladaptive behavior and internal narratives that, when examined, lead to better choices and a deeply fulfilling existence.

We discuss discovering your unique self-identity and purpose through specific practices of reflection, meditation and conversations with others. We also discuss self-perception and the evolution of roles within marriages, parent-child relationships, and work.

Throughout the episode, Dr. Hollis provides both basic knowledge and practical tools to help us assess ourselves and better understand who we are and what we really want in careers, relationships of all kinds, and society.

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Dr. James Hollis
Website: jameshollis.net/
Books: jameshollis.net/hollisBooks.html
Jung Platform: bit.ly/3yjVhTJ
Videos: jameshollis.net/hollisVideos.html
Upcoming lectures: jameshollis.net/hollisLecture.htm

Resources Mentioned
Erikson’s Stages of Development: bit.ly/3UWEyid
William Shakespeare “The Seven Ages of Man”: bit.ly/4bAmD6w
Steve Jobs Commencement Speech (2005):    • Steve Jobs' 2005 Stanford Commencemen...  
Jung on Death & Immortality (book): amzn.to/3USykzL
Live the Questions (Rainer Maria Rilke): bit.ly/4dAX9Yo

James Hollis Books Mentioned
Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life: How to Finally, Really Grow Up: amzn.to/3KiQwN7
Creating Your Life: Finding Your Individual Path: amzn.to/3UWEHlL
Living Between Worlds: Finding Personal Resilience in Changing Times: amzn.to/3UW3HcB
Under Saturn’s Shadow: The Wounding and Healing of Men: amzn.to/3UvCTOY
Swamplands of the Soul: New Life in Dismal Places: amzn.to/3UBwCBG
The Eden Project: In Search of the Magical Other: amzn.to/3UGyIjo

People Mentioned
Carl Jung: Swiss psychiatrist, psychoanalyst: bit.ly/3UDStbF
Marion Woodman: Jungian analyst, author: nyti.ms/3JZcjco
Søren Kierkegaard: Danish theologian, philosopher: stanford.io/3wy0Ygg
Terence: Roman playwright, poet: bit.ly/4bumG3q
Joseph Campbell: American author: bit.ly/3wwE4pz
Irene Claremont de Castillejo: author, Jungian analyst: amzn.to/3QJLkVX
Louis Pasteur: French chemist, microbiologist: bit.ly/4bBwWau
Erik Erikson: psychoanalyst, known for his theory of stages of development: bit.ly/3QISIRw

Timestamps
00:00:00 Dr. James Hollis
00:02:14 Sponsors: Mateina, Joovv & BetterHelp
00:05:57 Self, Ego, Sense of Self
00:13:59 Unconscious Patterns, Blind Spots, Dreams; Psyche & Meaning
00:21:56 Second Half of Life, Purpose, Depression
00:25:37 Sponsor: AG1
00:27:08 Tool: Daily Reflection; Crisis
00:31:47 Families & Children, Permission & Burdens
00:37:27 Complex Identification, Self-Perception; Social Media & Borderline
00:41:55 Daily Stimulus Response, Listening to the Soul
00:45:40 Exiting Stimulus-Response, Loneliness, Burnout
00:51:19 Meditation & Perception, Reflection
00:54:58 Sponsor: Waking Up
00:56:15 Recognizing the “Shadow” & Adulthood
01:02:48 Socialization; Family & Life Journey
01:09:04 Relationships & “Otherness”, Standing Your Ground
01:15:51 Marriage, “Starter Marriages” & Evolution; Parenting
01:19:37 Shadow Issues, Success & External Reward, Personal Growth
01:27:59 Men, Alcohol, “Stoic Man”, Loneliness, Fear & Longing
01:37:33 Women & Men, Focused vs. Diffuse Awareness; Male Rite of Passage
01:44:31 Sacrifice, Relationships; Facing Fears
01:48:20 Therapy, “Abyss of the Self”, Repeating Patterns & Stories
01:55:17 Women, Career & Family, Partner Support; Redefining Roles
02:01:40 Pathology & Diagnosis, Internet
02:07:05 Life, Suffering & Accountability, “Swamplands” & Task
02:11:32 Abuse & Recovery of Self, Patience, Powerlessness
02:14:11 Living a Larger Life; “Shut Up, Suit Up, Show Up”
02:17:49 Life Stages; Despair & Integrity Conflict
02:25:00 Death, Ego, Mortality & Meaning
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  • Thank you for watching. If you enjoyed this topic and episode, please click the "like" button and subscribe to our channel here on YouTube. Thank you for your interest in science!
  • @7oddM
    At 84, Dr. Hollis' mental/verbal clarity and speed is exceptionally high. It's inspiring.
  • 1. What are the stories we are living? 2. We live reacting to everything that happens to us. Do we have other options? 3. I'm accountable for what I have lived so far. 4. Everything is conditionable. Everything has a condition. 5. Serving the self is not selfish. 6. What does one really want? 7. Reflecting on my dreams with coffee every morning. 8. Psychology in Greek: 'Pay attention to the soul.' 9. Escape from any stimulus. Everything is a stimulus. 10. Find the place. Tolerate being with yourself, and if you really pay attention, something will start coming up. 11. Healthy response to whatever life brings up. 12. Look for people that can see what we cannot see. 13. Taking responsibility for my shadow and stop blaming others. 14. You become larger than what happened to you. 15. When you are done with your fears, the fears of others won't be so threatening. 16. Is this your life or someone else's? Some people just keep living reactively. 17. Tell me not your politics or your religion, tell me your suffering. 18. Pay attention, honor what emerges, and have courage to deal with it. We can live in a different way.
  • I’m genuinely in awe of James Hollis’ intellect, wisdom and compassion. For me, this is one of your best
  • @Catchmee24
    “I’m not here to fit in; I’m here to be who I am”
  • For me personally, this was one of the top 5 episodes you have ever done. Thank you so much to you Andrew, and to Mr. Hollis.
  • @Njmoreno22
    I’ve spend the past day and a half just listening, pausing and rewinding the first 35 minutes. There is wisdom within this man that takes a lifetime to attain. I feel like I’m listening to someone speak in epiphanies. You’re the man Dr. Hollis thanks for the knowledge.
  • I watched this for two days with maximum concentration and repetition. What a great conversation! Isn't it the best here so far? The truth was given so much life by Dr Hollis' calmness and experience. That's wonderful, isn't it? An old man that has much more curiosity than a younger one. Wisdom plus curiosity poetically combined with knowledge. I was touched to the bottom of my soul. God please give me a part of this wisdom🙏
  • We need Dr. James Hollis on your podcast one more time please.
  • @mooman627
    "We shouldn't always applaud at a 50 year wedding anniversary". That's some real conversation. Very humbling and insightful interview.
  • This has been one of the best, if not THE BEST episode. What an honor to have a conversation with Dr. Hollis.
  • This has been my favorite Andrew Huberman episode ever. Round of applause for James Hollis 👏🏼
  • Dr Hollis is so eloquent and such a gifted speaker. I wasn't aware of him until today. Thanks for bringing him to my attention Andrew.
  • This is the wise old person that I need in my life to shed light on my path, not only for me, but for many people. I sat down for two mornings, listened to every sentence very attentively, and wrote down three pages of notes. I'm in awe, this conversation was what I exactly needed. It refreshed my whole perspective and I'm feeling so grateful to be able to listen to this. Such wisdom we need every day in our lives.
  • James Hollis is a straight-up grown @ss Man. Neither puffing nor fawning, neither bullying nor bowing… a Man who has an unapologetic abundance of Self and Life. He gets it, which is so rare and refreshing in today’s world.
  • @zambC
    An absolute privilege to be able to listen to such a great discussion!! Very grateful for you both
  • @Sbullo
    Dr. Huberman, your discussions make me think deep. You are a healer. Please don’t ever stop your work. It’s beautiful, thoughtful, selfless and profound. Your words ring in my head many, many hours after I have listened to you. Isn’t that the point of what you do? Thank you from the bottom of my heart.
  • @VaiCatt
    You are changing lives Dr. Huberman. Forever grateful. Take care.
  • To breeze through an almost 3 hr podcast, and crave more, says something. My biggest takeaway was the idea that something did indeed shift in me when I passed 35, and I am not alone in that internal search. I’m going to download Dr. James Hollis’s book on audible’ “Finding Meaning in the Second Half of Life.” It is included in the audible membership, if anyone else is interested. Thanks, Dr. Huberman for another fabulous podcast.
  • This is one of my favorite episodes thus far… I want to listen again and take good notes as well. Listening was such a gentle reorientation and re-centering experience. I feel called both upward and inward. Thank you so much for introducing us to Dr. Hollis — I’m excited to continue learning from him. Please pass on our gratitude!