Why Autistic Children Are So Difficult + What To Do About It

Resources 📚 📕 (Why we can’t “make” children be who we want them to be) Blueprint: How DNA Makes Us Who We Are - Robert Plumin 📕 (Age appropriate parenting and understanding of the child) The Whole-Brain Child - Daniel J. Siegel & Tina Payne Bryson 📕 (Healing from our parents behaviour to be better parents to our children) The Conscious Parent - Shefali Tsabary Gentle parenting) 📕(Peaceful parents, happy kids - Dr. Laura Markham 🥦 The one food to treat autism symptoms nutritionfacts.org/video/best-foods-for-autism/ 💊 Alternative treatments for autism doesn’t work nutritionfacts.org/video/alternative-treatments-fo… 🥛 Some reasons why breastfeeding is so important www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC10631302/#:~:…. 👩 Breastfeeding resources (free) www.unicef.org.uk/babyfriendly/baby-friendly-resou… 👧 Learning Interpersonal Skills (to be a functioning human lol), Great for autistic people https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qAskGZybDG4&list=PLwPrhSDQ0V_sPa9sFimLwALxLV0GRn8dO 👵🏼 Are we over-accommodating our children? vt.tiktok.com/ZSFHyeNUW/

Once I pulled my son out of school and started homeschooling him and doing everything to meet his needs, things got so much better for both of us.

Great video! Your Dad is a very wise person. I am a retired teacher who specialized in Brain Based Learning with learning disabled students, as well as, a parent of three adult children. In total agreement of what was said, I would like to add some things. First, children need to sleep well, go outside and play/exercise twice daily and eat wholesome food and lots of water. There’s a book written, “How to really Love Your Child” by Ross Campbell. He states, “Sometimes they just need a hug”. Now, if they don’t want a hug, a smile does wonder. Next, the lower you keep your voice the better and some silence and put your finger on your mouth while keeping a smile. Last, keep them busy helping you, for example, have them clean the lettuce ( even if you have to clean it afterwards). When I had my classroom, my students who came from very low high risk neighborhoods, did everything. I was mostly supervising. You wanted to go to the bathroom, you asked the bathroom leader. Everyone was responsible for everything inside that classroom . And I NEVER said in front of them, “They were terrible, today”. It worked. Keep them busy at home, doing things with you. If they had a bad day, tell them it’s okay, let’s do something fun!

I wish 'they' heeded this when I was growing up (a long time ago). I was shown that all adults were my bosses and controlled my time (and my need to respond then and there). It probably took me thirty-five years to have any shard of self-confidence (or of being important enough to have any of my own wants and needs). It was as though others defined me (or who I was to be). There later became (in my life) my drugs, my psychoses, my withdrawals from people, and a whole load of other weighty junk. Thank you for understanding and promoting this.

Thank you, Saga. My son is 22 and he is so high-functioning that we don't even know if he is on the spectrum. However, he certainly is not neurotypical. He is super smart and gets so hyper focused on his interests he doesn't hear when you try to get his attention. He is also uncomfortable/anxious in social situations and finds it hard to read faces and body language. We have always given him lots of support, but did not have all of the tips you mentioned. I am proud that I (and my husband) advocated for him. One example: with his school in kindergarten--the principal said that the children were expected to come in independently to put their things in their cubby and go to breakfast or the classroom. I said that he wasn't ready for that yet, and continued to help him each morning to keep him on task in a way that was comfortable for him. (He would have just stood there watching everyone and been late every morning! 🙂) But, there were many times when we didn't understand his needs and were impatient. And when he became an older teen and didn't want a hug anymore, It took me a long time to realize that I needed to ask first. I knew it was important for him to get physical touch, so I "overruled" him at first. I hope your video really spreads the word. I wish I could have seen it long ago, but in my work as a children's librarian I will still use your advise and try to pass it on to others--especially about requiring an answer, or a wave. So many little ones aren't ready to answer us yet, and their parents keep trying to make them (all children). I only know of one little guy in our library who is autistic, so the tips will be useful in my interactions with him--but as you said, with all the other children, too! :hands-yellow-heart-red:

I showed my autistic 18 year old son this video and he told me today he can’t stop thinking about it. He needed to hear your message and it has brought him and I much comfort xxxx

You have the most beautiful way of explaining an extremely difficult subject. If you remember, I too am autistic. My emotions, as a 70 year old, still do not respond as most "normal" people. I was fortunate to not have lived with any labels as society didn't know what autism was 65 years ago. I do have 3 of my 36 grandchildren that are autistic. One is my biologic granddaughter and the other granddaughter and grandson are adopted. The two granddaughters are extremely high functioning, but the grandson is extremely low functioning. Their three sets of collective parents are very attentive to their needs and find the time that is required to love and nurture these grown grandchildren. My hope for both of my granddaughters is that they are able to have opportunities to live productive lives. My grandson will probably never be able to be on his own. There are going to be some difficult choices in the near future for him and his parents. Thank you for your kind words of information. These are "difficult" situations, but not more so than any other disability. These young people need our support and love. Saga, continue sharing your words of hope and encouragement. You are truly a teacher and a motivator. Please remember you are loved. ❤ 🇺🇸🧑‍🦳

I totally agree that when raising children with or without autism, it is important to be patient and respect their needs. Very informative video. Thanks.

So helpful Saga. Autism is not a visible illness and so often misunderstood.🌻🌻

Just found your channel. Thank you so much for making all theese videos. You just keeps speaking about my child in a way i gave needed someone to speak to me for years. It really gives me something to think about and something helpfull to do for my child❤

Thank you for this great, and tender-hearted, informative video. I really didn't understand too much at all about Autism, as I have not had any experience with it. I have however, dealt with my oldest child having serious mental health issues for many years, including struggling with depression, severe OCD, and related drug problems. I think when people have not ever known this kind of thing in their own lives, it can be so hard to relate, but I think we should all strive for empathy. We never know what some soul might be dealing with in his or her life, so simply showing kindness and caring can make their walks in life easier. I guess we all need to be thankful for the goodness we do have, and not dwell on the harder things that can come our way. But you always shine so bright with your gentle ways, wisdom, and sweet nature, and are always ready to help others Saga. That's what it should all be about, so thank you for bringing about more understanding for parents, family, and friends that have a loved one in their lives who deserves that TLC that can make all the difference! ❤‍🩹💗💖

Thank you so much sharing this beautiful video on autism 🌼 its so refreshing hearing all these info you shared.

I am not a parent and the topic is not close to me personally, but it is always interesting to learn more about a topic that is new to you and your video is simply amazing in its structure, advice, and presentation of the material. Always here to support, you do valuable things Saga

a lot of people struggle to understand autistic people's issues with socializing. as a child i was always told that everyone has social skills and i just needed to use them even though i was doing the most i could! i was also told i couldn't blame my issues with keeping friendships on being awkward. its so very important to try your best to support them and teach them the skills that you and other neurotypical people may have been able to grasp without it being explicitly said

Great video. Thank you.

It was so funny to hear you talk about hand washing or brushing teeth for half an hour, that is my 12-year-old son! I try to get him to use a timer so he isn't playing for too long so we can get ready if we need to go out. Any other suggestions about this? Also, we do homeschool, and he is super smart but, he struggles with doing workbook pages and only wants to do on-line lessons. he loves to read but, the writing is a struggle. He can do the on-line lessons but, there are games when he finishes a lesson, and he gets obsessed with them. Any tips on homeschooling? I'd love to see a video about that. I'm sure you could offer some insight on some great ideas. I'm sorry to hear that you didn't like school. My son tried a part time in person school that was supposed to be Montessori but, they actually spent most of the time on chrome books. I was thinking about trying another part time school or just elective classes in person like robotics. He has a nice group of friends in boy scouts, and he loves outdoor activities, and we plan on adding swimming and other activities since he is getting more interested in trying new things now. Thank you for all you do, you are amazing!

Love your autism videos! ❤

This is such an interesting topic. Thank you for sharing💜

Thank you so much for sharing this from your heart! I could see it in your eyes... Have a great week my friend! kram

thank you it was very useful!!