How Do I Know If I'm Transgender?

I am terrified of transitioning at 60, but don't see any other way to happiness; have I left it too long

Hi, I'm Leo. I told my mom I don't feel like a girl and that I am a boy. She said I'm just being brainwashed by the media or something like that... She always says to me, almost every day, that I'm not a boy, and that I can never be a real boy. I want to be called a he and be called my new name so badly... but my mom always ends up bringing up the fact that I was born female and I can't be anything else. I feel like I can't tell my step dad, biological dad, or brother because I know they will react the same... I've asked all of my friends to call me my new name and pronouns, but nobody has, I guess they're trying though. Anyway, I just really needed to say all of this, so I posted it here where I hopefully will be accepted. Thank you for reading all of this.

I can't explain how I feel, honestly. Being female (I'm lesbian, by the way. I hate being female but I love girls) I feel..trapped. I feel trapped in my body. Like I wish I could change something. Like, I want to change my entire experience. I wish I was male. But I'm scared. And I feel dirty and weird whenever someone uses female pronouns on me. Whenever I see males, I'm overcome with a strong jealously. I'm jealous of males because I wish I was one.

I want to be a boy but I'm just wondering if this is a phase...

I got addressed as Ma'am on social media yesterday and it made my heart skip a beat and made me incredibly happy.

I am nearly 50 and I always wanted to be female. I don’t identify as a male. I don’t like being male, and felt all my life I have I have been disconnected. I am married to a beautiful woman, and don’t want to break her heart and tell her I feel more female. Life is certainly interesting.

Can I replace my therapist with you? You're so much more simple and less complicated lol. 

When I was 11 I went through a “phase” of wanting to be a boy. Seeing how it upset my mum I told her it was just a phase. It’s come back (I’m 15 now) I never enjoyed being a girl, I felt comfortable with Male friends and talking like a boy. I’m loud and confident when I feel very masculine and I feel like if look so much better as a boy and I’d feel so much happier but I’m worried that it’s just a phase again :( Edit: hi! It's been 2 and a half nearly 3 years or so since I made this comment which is crazy, I forgot about this until I got a notification on a commenter. A little update about how I'm doing: shortly after I made this comment I came out to my friends and family as a trans man and decided to make that terrifying huge step to coming out publically. I've now been identifying as a man, dressing as a man, using a binder, men hair cut and legal name change. Its been nearly 3 years being out as a trans man and I have not regretted a single thing. It's been a massive journey and I'm nowhere near finished with many surgeries coming up and exciting testosterone shots. I can't wait to be closest to my real self as possibly. Also mens bathrooms stink of piss, come on boys, aim a little better (joking sort of)

I'm questioning my gender and have been for about a year now but when I was little I was the most girly girl possible and loved dresses, now I hate them. I'm so confused... I kinda want to be a guy but I'm not sure if I'm trans. I do experience some body dysphoria... I don't know what to do

I found out was transgender mtf and am starting hrt and I'm very happy because I am becoming the person I was always ment to be

I'm 12 (born female) and I have actually tried crossdressing. The second I looked at my face, and I felt male, I smiled almost impulsively. I love baggy clothes baseball caps and I hate makeup and skirts. I write a lot of stories and almost all the main characters are male. Whenever people call me "she" I mentally correct it to "he". I've started crossdressing so much, that I have memorized how to tie a tie. But when I looked at myself in the mirror, it felt weird that my moments matched with my boy self. Am I going through a phase or am I truly trans? Help!

your video more helpful than them tests find out if your transgender or not, no one should try them tests they just confuses you.

when I try to explain what it feels like to be trans its like ur a snake shedding their skin. u expect it to come off, but it won't and ur trapped inside.

Heyo, I'm 14 years old (male) and have for the past few months almost a year, thoroughly ripping my mind apart on who am I and why I was born the gender I am... In the past I have had major short flashes of emotional experience about wanting to be a woman, even crying about it and dreaming about it (sleep). My community and "friends" would be extremely reject I've to the thought of me or anyone wanting to be female/male opposite to who they are. I don't usually tell people just in case I decide not to go through with anything. Lots of times in my life I go through phases and I've found this "war" in my head not to be one. I thought it would go away and I was sad at the thought but it keeps coming back like a fiery storm. I look around and see other girls and want to be them, like them, start my own story. Every morning, even now, I wake up and usually almost instantly start thinking about the thought of being female. Though my brain has split into two very specific and different minds. One the female side, the other my current male. They argue all of the time on what should happen and I just watch... I usually try not to think about it much but every two minutes my opinion switches. I did a lot of research during this time and found out a lot of positive things for me. So now they fight but mostly the female side is winning and I'm now in the stages of worrying if I classify as a transsexual (specific transgender, I want to have the SRS). It'll take a while as I have 4 years and I always look to my future worrying on what will happen but I now have hope. I also want to make a decision soon. Very soon. This April 14th 2015 (12 days away >~<) I'm going in to talk to a therapist and sort it all out but I am so so worried on if I "qualify" for having the mind set of a transsexual for the surgery. Its a stupid sorry to some but it's no joke on the fact I think I'll be rejected... I mean I never really showed the longing to be the other gender as a younger child but as I grew I had confusing flashes of emotion like I said earlier. I just really hope I "pass".... I believe I'll go through and do what I want with my life finally. The last worries I have are if I'll find my significant other, awesome friends, good experiences... And one day have a child (researched it and probably won't be able to become pregnant even if implanted due to the lack of a uterus and ovaries ;~;). But its a scary thought of deciding before highschool (still in 8th grade). So I just hope I'll be okay :), and hope my family (dad mostly) doesn't push me down too hard. (He doesn't believe me when I say I've considered this and just tells me someone told me to do this... Lots of family issues :/) Anyways... Thanks for the video as it was very helpful! Hope someone at least sees my story :3, Thanks!

I really confuse myself sometimes because I don't feel like a girl and whenever someone says something to do with my being a girl I always feel an urge to say "Yeah, but I'm not a girl". However sometimes there's a moment where I say "I'm a girl" and it feels so unnatural and wrong, despite me saying it almost automatically. Its almost like I say it because I feel like I'm expected to say it rather than because I believe it. However I don't really consider myself to be a boy either, despite feeling more on the masculine side. I think I'm Genderfluid or something but its really confusing. >_< I just know I'm not a girl. It doesn't really help that my family claim to be open-minded, but don't really act that way when it comes to myself. They find it weird that I don't want to be feminine and put it down to me being a 'tomboy' or making the excuse that I'm a teenager so my hormone are going everywhere and it kind of hurts. I'm not exactly 'out', but all things considering I really don't feel comfortable telling them. All my plans for transitioning in some way or starting to dress more like I want to are set in place for my adulthood, when I hopefully wont be living with them anymore and thus wont have to suffer under their scrutiny or try to explain myself. I just feel so self-conscious around them and thus don't want to make any sudden changes while under the same roof. I'm trying to sort of ease into it slowly, for example insisting on wearing a suit to prom and expressing an interest in the clothes in the mens section in the hopes that they will either take the hint or will be less surprised when I eventually come out. Sorry for rambling. >_<

I just turned 29, and I've been pushing thoughts like this away since I was 14. I don't know if I can anymore. I don't even know if I'm trans, like, there's so much confusion. Woman doesn't feel right though, and it hasn't since puberty. :(

figuring out my gender has been the most confusing and tough thing i've ever tried. for four years i've been trying to figure it out. no cis woman would constantly stress over people referring to her with feminine pronouns and titles, right? but then again, sometimes it doesn't bother me as bad. i've come to think i am genderfluid, just mainly masc genders. the thing is, once i realize this, i back away because of how scary it is to figure out what to do next. whether i want to tell people and risk them hating me, whether i want to change my appearance to fit my gender more comfortably. i am so so so terrified of change

i wanted to be a guy. i accidentally told my great grandma. i was living with my great grandparents, who are very strong christians. when my great grandma found out, she was not happy at all. my great grandpa called me a dyke. then i went to live with my great grandparents, who im living with now. i thought theyd be more accepting, theyre christians but theyre a lot more laidback and dont yell at me for everything like my great grandma did. my grandpa accepted me my entire life, no matter the issue, always helping me, but when he found out about how i felt he told me "what you want cant be done" and things like that. a LGBT ad came on tv and he frowned and went "ugh" my grandma said that "girls turn into boys to have sex with girls" she wouldnt listen and when i told her what it actually meant she said "you dont know what it means. i have transgender friends so i know what it means" but with her definition im pretty sure she just has lesbian friends. now my nickname is "girl" "lady" and "girly girly" and "babe" ive tried to tell someone i dont like my name but they keep calling me my birth name im trying to stay a girl, but i hate it. i hate my body, my voice, my nicknames, all of it i dont know who i am anymore. i think maybe im nonbinary? i dont know anymore. i just dont want to be a girl

Just a little tip for everybody, things that are assigned to genders are not genders themselves. You can be a trans man and wear dresses or a trans woman and wear a suit and tie etc. a gender role is different than gender itself, though there is much sociological overlap. We have to think about how nuanced cis gendered people are. Those same nuances exist within transgender people and they are perhaps even more complex. Just be what makes YOU feel MOST content. ✌️😊

Hey there - there isn't a "reply" link on your comment on YouTube. I'm hoping this reaches you through this way. :)  It is super overwhelming for anyone to transition, at any age, and especially when you are a teen! If there is any way your parents would be willing to help, that would be ideal. If there's any way you can visit a counselor, with them, who can help explain to them what is going on and why it is so important that you begin to discuss the option of transitioning, that could maybe get the ball rolling. Getting others to understand how serious this is can be hard, but if they care about you they will eventually come around. Keep asking your friends and others to try using your correct pronoun and name, even if you have to bug them repeatedly about it.  Oh, and playing with dolls is a stereotypical female thing to do and doesn't mean anything really. :) Good luck, keep me posted! Dara