Your body language may shape who you are | Amy Cuddy | TED

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I showed this TedTalk to my son Now he is my Father

“Fake it ill you become it”- The most impressive statement ever!! As a girl in middle school with so many outstanding fellows, I cried a river along my way to graduation. But through all those tearful years, I know found what my true identity was: Always keep up with your work, and don’t limit your identity as just a “normal” student

I watched this for one of my classes and sometimes, I admit, I only half pay attention to required videos but this one completely captivated me. When she told her personal story I literally started to cry because I used to be that girl she was describing. I had horrible social anxiety and struggled so much with day to day interactions. Now I am getting more confident everyday and have taken on roles that I never thought I could do as a painfully shy teenager. Fake it until you become it really does work.

i literally call this my favorite ted talk ever. i watched it for the first time nearly 2.5 years ago when i was shy and unconfident in myself and my looks and personality and basically everything about myself. i followed this message and now i am the best and most beautiful person i know. i walk around like i run the place and i am not afraid of what people think of me mostly. i still am working on becoming better in social situations and being able to talk to anyone and not being afraid but i am way better now than i was before

Awww, she got a standing ovation! She deserved it too.

When I need my self-esteem, I always come back to this. I have been living all my life with this idea, I’m not good enough. I tried hard to overcome, but the thought always caught my leg before going on to the next level that I looked up to. When I was in law school, I was so devastated with the competitive environment. I was surrounded with smart students and I felt I was no one. The fact that I was so insecure, made me more insecure. I knew I had something in me, but it didn’t seem to be shown. I was struggling so hard when I watched this video. And it really hit me. The idea that I can fake it until I become it gave me a strange relief that it was okay to admit that I am no one, but at the same time it gave me a strength to keep trying no matter what the results were. It was okay because I worked hard and it will get better. it was like a small disbelief within Greater belief. Thank you for sharing this ted. It really changed how I see me.

if you're always feeling low on confidence check if you have hunched shoulders. if you do pull them back to where they should be. this made the world of difference to me, it literally is changing my life. I don't know if it's a placebo but I feel much more confident now

the saying " I 'm not supposed to be here", "No, you are" is so touching for me.

When she started talking about how she had survived that car wreck and had to rebuild herself after suffering with brain damage, and dropping 2 deviations in her IQ level, which led to losing her sense of identity, because she had always been known as the smart girl. I was overwhelmed with so many emotions and was so happy when she said that she is now a professor at Harvard. She is the epitome of fake it until you become it but in the absolute best way possible, because she has lived it, simply, INCREDIBLE!!

HER SPEECH GAVE CHILLS ALL OVER MY BODY. When she started talking about feeling like she was not supposed to be at Harvard but then one of her students said the same thing, it even gave goosebumps on my face. She is one successful woman. Internally and externally. Thank you so much!

The reason why this talk is so attention catching and touching is because Amy Cuddy is REAL, she shows herself truly in this talk and while the content is amazing as well, I truly believe that her soul shines through her words and her body language. Truly beautiful - thank you for the message!

Little known fact: Originally, the video was not planned to be this long. She decided to add that last personal experience in the moment, which has evidently made it much more popular than it would have been.

These Ted Talks man, they're changing my life, they're changing everyone's lives. Thank you!

Thank you for this. I had done this method and lots of people say you will not become manager and always put me down and they told me your english is you’re third language. Manager needs to have great english language and your not one of them. The person who told me that was someone very close to me that is supposed to support me. So hearing from him, i felt very disappointed and doubt myself to then point i start agreeing with his point of view. Fake it till you become it and i did it at age 30 yrs old and i become a manager in prestigious firm and thank u so much for ur advice.

This is an amazing lecture by Amy Cuddy. Lots of intakes for the young generation who aim to improve their body language! She has struggled a lot to reach here even after the accident and suffering from brain damage, but she has not lost herself. She became stronger and now she is an inspiration to people who think their communication and body language skills don't come easy to them. As she says "Fake it till you make it"!!

I did this very thing when I was 16. I was a shy introvert when my family moved from one school district to another city. It was then I decided I didn't want to be shy and introverted but WANTED to be extroverted and outgoing. Since no one at the new school knew I wasn't already extroverted,  I "faked" it till I became it.  It was the best thing I ever did for myself.  I am now 62 and most people I know can't believe I never lacked confidence.

Moral of the story is to T-pose when nobody's looking

I started to tear up by her anecdote at the end. Such a wonderful TED talk 💖