in love with my best friend's girl 💔 r/AITA

Shaaba I love these videos but can you please add chapters! I get distracted very easily so it would be really helpful to be able to go back to the beginning of a story ❤️

Ultimately to me the allocation of graduation tickets is not mom's prerogative. It's the graduate themselves that should be choosing who they should invite because it's THEIR graduation. Who they want there trumps what mom wants to do.

23:41 – Accusing the kid of being disrespectful? But, man, the kid TOLD YOU they didn't want father-child matching hair and then you went ahead and tried to do it anyhow—that is the LITERAL DEFINITION of disrespecting them and their wishes. Please, sit down.

I agree with the advice not to let him fill out the paperwork. I’ve heard too many stories of dads deciding on different names or spellings when left to the task. If he already had motivation for that sort of thing, I’d simply fill it out together so he isn’t even presented with the temptation.

A High School graduation takes place when a child is 18 (give or take) so they are entirely capable of handing all ten tickets over the the kid (basically an adult) and let them divvy them out according to who they most want to be there.

With the first story, I really dislike the whole “have to pass down family names” and drama coming out when one partner is insisting upon it. My name ended up being a compromise to avoid a bunch of drama and I never liked it. I have since taken on the name that my mom wanted for me originally now that I’m old enough to choose. The husband is being the drama here. He hates his name and has taken to using other names for himself, yet he thinks it’s appropriate to force his child through the same hassle because he’s not willing to stand up to his parents. He’s being a coward and needs to set up the precedent that his family can’t push him around.

I agree that autonomy is important but it also confers a responsibility to understand how our choices impact others. OP came up with a cool hairstyle idea, and his dad has decided to copy it. He does not understand or care that OP is uncomfortable with this. He is the parent and he should be empathetic toward his son's feelings and act responsibly.

I think high school graduation is a bigger deal in the US; I would've found it weird if my sisters didn't come to mine. Ironically, we only had our parents at our college graduations because we had already sat through the high school ones, and I didn't even go to my grad school graduations even though they're more important.

People on reddit truly always assume the worst in people, it's quite frustrating sometimes

WHY do parents always accuse their children of "disrespecting them" if the child does something the parent doesn't like? I don't have children, but I would never do something like that. The dad is totally the drama (in the hair dyeing story)

You might wan to read the update on the 2nd story. Luke apparently went to Luna's work, confessed to loving her, told her OP was cheating and then tried to assault Luna to the point she had to punch him to get him to stop. Maybe OP was underselling what an ass Luke is around women.

For the last story, why can't the child graduating decide? I'm assuming they're at least 18

For the 2nd story, there is an update. Luke approached Luna while she was on break at work, lied to her about OP cheating, and tried to kiss her. She ended up punching him. So it looks like the NTA comments were right about that one.

First story, I just had a baby. And we refused to tell ✨anyone✨ the name we chose (and we chose it 10 years ago. It’s our first boy). And we were worried because it’s not the name everyone expected (it’s a tradition that men name their first boy after their fathers). And a lot of people assumed we’d use that name (and one cousin told me that she’d be so happy to meet [father’s name] and that we had to use that name). But after I had my baby, no one was upset. Everyone loved the baby and names are secondary (and we have a lot of nicknames … even for all our kids).

My partner's dad is a "the 2nd" and I've witness him tell his dad multiple times "thank you for not continuing that" lol

1st story: Seems like there's about a dozen other men in the family who can give that name to their sons.

I personally feel like the split in the last case kinda makes sense. Think about it in tiers: tickets for the parents, so 3 because there are 3 parents, then tickets for immediate family apart from parents, so 3 for the siblings, then the rest (4) gets evenly split between the two families of bio parents, so 2 for each. Dunno, it makes sense. But yeah, hope the kid gets to take their best friend.

Graduations are just really boring. While I would have had 6 tickets, I talked to my family beforehand, and we collectively decided that I would just go there alone, grab my degree, and go home, where we would celebrate properly. Because of this, I sold my tickets off to other graduates who wanted to bring more than 6 people and used the money to buy myself a graduation gift, which was a decision I didn't regret.

For the second story, ESH. Sure, the reaction was horrendous and all, but why did the friend decide to tell on himself? If you feel things that will hurt someone else and that nothing can be done about other than therapy, it's not the other person's problem! To me, it's similar to jealousy: something to be kept to yourself and dealt with by talking to a therapist or other friends. Everyone dealt badly with this situation.

This may just be because I'm jaded and have read many a Reddit story, but I can understand the comments being wary about the friend in Story 2. There's unfortunately alot of people who are willing to completely wreck someone's relationship for the sake of themselves, so the possibility of the friend telling a false narrative about the OP to the girlfriend to make him look like the villain is entirely plausible to me.