Your tardy friends suck. 7 Principles

Lane splitting at 90 mph sounds like a good way to be absent

Just a disclaimer, this does not come up in OUR couples therapy. I am also very punctual. 😉

There are some people I want to send this to, but I don't want to be petty 😆 Very valuable, thank you Van!

One thing I would like to add is that I don't think being late is always a signal of character. In my own experience, some of my most unconditionally caring and compassionate friends are late. I also have friends that are very judgemental and apathetic, who are routinely on time. I think some people see friendships as more transactional than others, while other people see friendships as unconditional. Sometimes my best friends are late, but we often enjoy each other's company more than some of my punctual friends. That said, I have certainly met unsavory people who clearly show that they don't care at all by being late and wasting my time, and that is unacceptable.

This is like Thoreau levels of neuroticism but applied to the opposite principals. He would probably cringe at the idea of fighting traffic like a warrior. Tongue in cheek, but chock full of the quiet desperation we all feel working, commuting. I am also compulsively punctual but over time it has made me realize I might be better off caring less about it.

I actually schedule every minute of my day four years in advance, including designated bathroom breaks. I have a ytterbium atomic clock implanted in my forearm so as to account for the theory of relativity. I disowned my best friend Jeremy, because his constant state of "depression" was his excuse for being 6 minutes late to our weekly squash match. You don't grieve the passing of your mother on MY SQUASH TIME Jeremy.

Love this! For future reference: 7 Principles of Punctuality 1. Estimated Duration of Travel 2. Kill time ONLY at your destination, when parked. 3. Meet at a specific place. 4. No Communication During Commute 5. Your excuses are your own. 6. Be a cop. 7. Allowances a. Dinner at someone's house b. Parties (non-surprise) c. Meeting A FAMILY at the mall d. The playground e. Qualifiers f. On-the-clock employees/on-the-clock subordinates

Punctuality is huge for me too. So much so that I told my father I had met the “girl of my dreams, but she was always late. I don’t think I can get over it”. He paused for a moment and then said “ son, if that is her only problem, marry her immediately!” Been together 30 years now. 25 years married. Two kids in college. Has she become more punctual? Hell no! She is still always late. I have learned to tolerate, but it still ticks me off!

Being punctual is largely related to very strict boundaries. Some of the most selfless people I know are late all the time because they are constantly letting things creep into the vital time of preparation

Being punctual also allows for safer travel. No need for speeding or dangerous maneuvers that risk the lives of your fellow drivers. Driving is a communal activity that is sold to us as an individual one. Great video, thank you Van.

As someone who has been perpetually late to things, seeing this was like receiving a stern, and very well deserved talking to from my dad. Thanks Van, appreciate your candor!

I have ADHD and unfortunately, that means I also have time-blindness which sucks ass! But if I feel like being late has serious consequences then I am 2 hours early. It's a tough life.

I had a piano teacher in high school that hated when I was late. He used to say: “Once you come up with an excuse to be late I know you don’t want to be here” and that broke my heart because I loved piano lessons, so I learned to be punctual.

Well this is the video I didn’t know I needed to see. I feel terrible for making my partner late to most things. I never saw it as such a huge deal, but I realise now how disrespectful it is. I’ve used my laziness or ‘go with flow attitude’ as an excuse but it’s actually pretty gross. Thank you Van for making this video. I will work on being more punctual and consider all variables. 🙌🏾

You should definitely create a video addressing the importance of repaying debts to friends punctually and the significance of keeping one's word. Some individuals truly need such reminders.

The only one I have an issue with, is the not being on time for employees. I am punctual. Nobody wants to sit around waiting for the meeting to start and nobody wants to go a half an hour over meeting because we have other things to do. Short of the owner of the business, most bosses don’t actually pay the employee they’re just another employee and it’s highly disrespectful to make people wait for a meeting at the person who is late scheduled That’s a good way to get employees to just dread having any meetings it will also encourage them to be late because if the manager is frequently 10 minutes late, they’re going to start planning to only be there 10 minutes after the start of the meeting so that they can do other things and get other work done rather than wasting their time

As a punctual person, from the bottom of my heart: thank you

I’m hate being late, most of the time I’m in the area 15 minutes early so I know I can be there right on time. I’m also one of the rare people with ADHD that is this way. But if you know someone with ADHD that is always late. Tell them why being on time is important to you and Ask them how you can help them be on time You could suggest reminder texts. Research when they should leave and give them a proper buffer. They aren’t doing it on purpose. Their brain works differently.

I feel 110% the same way!! I want to show this video to everyone in my life that’s habitually late!! I once showed up to a job interview 15 minutes early and when the interviewer noted that I replied with “the first one on time, is the first one late!” He was quite impressed with that line. I got the job.

Love this. I am not the most disciplined person by any means but for some reason I've always felt the need to be on time and drives me nuts when people are late.