Common Excuses to Avoid Transitioning

My excuse for not transitioning: I’m too much of a coward to come out as trans.

as a cisgendered woman, I can tell you that most cis women don't even look "feminine enough" for society. Most women put a lot of work in everyday to come off as "pretty", take a look at prison inmates, that's the natural woman. What I'm trying to say is, if there is a will, there is a way. It's all about skill, hun. ALL about skill.

My biggest fear of transitioning is changing my mind halfway through

I'm worried about losing my financial stability.

Oh dear, the girls out there who are afraid they're too tall, I absolutely LOVE a tall woman! Don't let that stop you!

Or another excuse that haunts me is "Someone expects me to be a son, brother, father, Godfather, etc." It's quite affecting my desire to transition due to someone's controlling/manipulative acts. I try to be the gender that I was born, not the one that I feel that I am. But... as you say that it's all excuses. Life is unfair to some and that's including me.

I started transitioning when I was 35 and I'm 40 now. I have no regrets. Although I wish I could have started sooner, I know it likely would not have been possible. Not an excuse, I just wasn't fully aware of myself as a transgender person when I was younger.

I had a teacher who had prostate cancer and was put on testosterone blockers, and he was bald. Once he went on the blockers, within a few months, he had a full head of hair again.

I wish you would make one of these for FTM, or more FTM related videos in general. You make very good videos. Cheers.

I started at 41 and now I'm feeling a lot better in life, but I do regret starting later.

I started at 76 years, I have never been so happy & comfortable. I will in all likelihood have to wear wear wig, oh well. My dysphoria is rather severe it has been for decades, it seems to get worse as times passes. I got tired of fighting it. When my wife passed away it was easier for me to be me. She knew all about my situation.

When I was younger I always kinda wanted to be a girl. I played with them, always liked 'girlish' things, but a lot of the time I tried dissacociating myself with being 'girlish'. Me and my sister would play house a lot, and I wanted to be the daughter but I just ended up being the dog. When I got a little older I didn't know being 'transgender' was a thing, but at some point I looked up if it was possible to get a sex change and I was really ecstatic. Although I always tell myself 'what if I regret it?'

One of my excuses is that it's just a phase because I'm around the age of puberty

I feel like I need to be a boy. Really badly. But I fear that I won't want to be a boy after I do transition. But I know I won't. I'm terrified that people will hate me and reject me too. These videos are getting to me. They make me realize how bad my disphoria really is.

My voice sounds like it's from the depths of he'll.

Literally every worry I had. Thank you. I feel I can look into myself to better see if this is really what I need. I feel more comfortable now.

To any trans women who worry about their receding hairline; I'm a cis woman who naturally has a hairline that resembles the receding hairline of male pattern baldness, I have no hair growth on my temples. It has always looked like that, even as a child. It's the same for my sister. No one ever questioned our womanhood over this. Having a receding hairline doesn't mean you won't pass or that you are any less of a woman!

You are not too old to transition. I am 60. I finally came to the self-realization that I was transwoman only 6 weeks ago. It was amazing. My major depression and anxiety disorders mostly disappeared within days. I thought they were lifelong. My therapist was sooo happy for me. I didn't wait to start. I bought clothes: underwear, skinny leg jeans, girlie tops, leggings, cute little jumpers, bling, and started wearing only them. I ordered a beautiful slay blonde wig, and now I wear it every time I go out. I came out to my colleagues at school, I'm an elementary school music teacher. The kids love my transition. I started learning makeup. Now I wear it even if it's not perfect. I posted tons of pics on FB and Instagram. I'm looking almost like a young girl and absolutely loving myself. Just look at my profile pic. I took it with my phone, no photoshopping. I don't get to see my trans doctor for the first time for another 5 weeks, but I'm not waiting. I found my true self, I'm going for it now. You can too!

With all due respect to this woman, she has never transitioned, and never experienced the dysphoria associated with transgenderism. In another video, she lectures about who is crossdressing vs. who is transgendered, when most "experts" suggest there is a tremendous amount of overlap between these two categories, and as we all know, we lie on a spectrum. She should stop shoving people into little boxes. Here she "has heard endless excuses"...Oh really? Because what you delineated in your video touches on exactly one aspect of transitioning, appearance. No mention of the additional physical demands which are made on a persons body, and how some cannot simply tolerate it. No mention of the economic ramifications, not only the cost to transition, but also the devastation wrought when people lose careers. No mention of the effects on marriages, and families, and how transitions often occur only after years of marriage and result in divorces and shattered homes. I'm all for transitioning when and if a person can fully comprehend the costs involved. Idiots like this grasp at one or two issues when in fact this is an extremely complex issue. Most experts will tell you, "You will know if you need to transition- you will have no other choice". Until that time, go slow, go carefully, seek advice, and make no lasting decisions, as far as you are able. And don't get any medical or psychological advice from Youtube.

Great video! I absolutely agree with you about the goal of transition not being about becoming a beauty queen. In fact, I feel strongly that we are in a good position to fight against beauty standards, so long as we are in a position mentally healthy and stable enough to overcome our insecurities (and we ALL have insecurities). With that said, I think that having a goal to be as pretty or handsome as you can be is okay, so long as that goal doesn't consume you. You should always work to find value in yourself beyond your appearance, because in those dark days when your confidence is low and you feel ugly and rejected, you will need to hold onto that value that isn't a part of what your mind is attacking about yourself. I find value in myself that I'm smart, empathetic, skilled in my line of work, a hard worker, etc. No one can attack my appearance and take away my self-value. And they can only impact my confidence for a short time, and then only if I let them. But reaching this point wasn't easy, and was the result of my wife calling me out multiple times, and even reaching a crisis point in our relationship. Puberty isn't easy, even the second time around! And you might have to learn some life lessons all over again. But you can do it! And you don't have to do it alone. Find a good therapist like Alexis. Find a good community for support- online or local, or both! Talk to your ally friends. Talk to you ally family. ♥ for all my trans sisters, brothers, and enbies! Be safe and live well!