We all have that one friend who... | Episode 134

If you can't afford a party, don't have it. I won't invite people to my birthday and expect them to pay unless if they want extra things not catered for. I am also not expecting anyone to invite me to their birthday party and expect me to pay. It's giving living beyond your means I beg

That one friend whose house is always burning and you ALWAYS support them but when it’s your turn they ghost you. Dropped immediately!

Frenemies are the worst!!! From the passive aggressive behavior, the secret competition, sharing of stuff you’ve told them in secret to other groupies, lack of boundaries , not able to genuinely celebrate your wins yet you've always been there for them during all their wins, those who copy you but behave like they don't, and also will celebrate others for doing the same thing as you, just not you!!!

The one who is always single with great relationship advice😅

This is my favourite episode for very selfish reasons lol. I lost my best friend two weeks after I got engaged. My wedding is in August, and I have never really sat down to think about our friendship, until today. Y’alls friendship is so familiar, it’s a little scary. Reminds me of our friendship and absolutely put a smile on my face. Right now we would have been watching together and naming friends that fit in each of these categories 😂😂😂😂. She was the most beautiful soul I have ever met, and I kept hearing her commentary with each point, and it made me so happy. I am turning 30 in July, and I don’t think I have the heart to start over with anyone else. I am happy to live vicariously through you two :)

That one friend who always shows up for every group event without fail to support. Love you bestie ❤❤

Paying or not paying for birthday: It depends on what you are accustomed to. Inviting people for birthday should be paid for by the person inviting, the expectation might be that atleast friends bring gifts. However, in my friendships, we usually agree to go for birthday dinners for each other and everyone pays for themselves. We all contribute to pay for cake and cater for birthday person’s bill.

I don’t mind people being themselves but in a restaurant, or other public services, there are some basic social courtesies. I am just trying to enjoy my soup without having to loudly hear about a stranger’s breakups, traumas, office gossip etc 😒

We all have that one friend who has insecurities when it comes to her man🤦🏽‍♀️

40:20 Murugis face when Lydia was clapping for her for being the best gossip mate 😂😂😂😂😂😂

You can always say on the invitation “this is a self funded event” (if you want people to pay their own bills) 😊

frenemies piss me off for sure,weird comments and those friends whom have nothing to say when i share my wins.

On the birthday thing, my thing is if its a party then you should cater for it i.e party in your house but I will still ask to be sure. If its a dinner I assume I am paying but I usually ask whether it is catered for just to be sure and budget. We should never be afraid to ask just because we're afraid of how we'll be perceived. As Just Ivy says, we are no longer afraid of speaking about money. If I can afford to cater for it then I will, otherwise the invitation will say come prepared to pay so that you can budget and decide whether you'll be able to attend or not. I guess its something normal with my friends as well so its not awkward or weird. Lets all try be open, not affording something is not a crime guys kwanza na hii economy heh SPEAK UP!.

That one friend that tells everyone your staff 😢😢 I unfriended them tho, am healing 😢

That one friend who complains about everything/nothing... she had to go.😅 hooked already.

Add me in those friendship groups that discuss TMI.. I'd love to be a part of one and I don't have friends who watch

In my opinion, if you decide to throw a birthday party, you should cater for it. The people you invite can bring you gifts. Its the same way when you invite someone on a date, you pay for the date. I feel the same way about weddings. I don't advocate for wedding committees. People can gift you money or even decide to contribute towards your wedding but it shouldn't be mandatory. If you can't afford to have a birthday party, wedding , ruracio etc, don't have it.

As a person who currently resides in diaspora it’s just the culture here that ppl are expected to pay for their own food and drinks when invited to a restaurant for a birthday party/ personally I think it’s important that people know in advance that ..thy will pay for food and drinks or either….loved the episode ❤

When I invite friends to my birthday party It's definitely paid for. I'd expect gifts which in essence could be in form of envelopes or wine or just something, don't come empty handed.

I'm a listener on Spotify but now that I'm here, ofc I have to take a moment and comment! I appreciate your beauty ladies