7 Things The Narcissist Hates

When you find the courage and strength to escape from a narcissist, keep running and never ever look back.

1/Criticism 2/Being Ignored 3/ Not Being In Control 4/Being Rejected/ Abandoned 5/Boundaries 6/Not Being The Center Of Attention 7/ Being Held Accountable

Don’t even tell them the reason why. We explain ourselves too much. It’s none of anyone’s business.

Before l knew about narcissism, when l told them the TRUTH they went into a Rage, l was like WTF. It all makes sense now.

Just ignore them. Pretend they do not exist. Force yourself into it. The result our society may get is tremendous.

7 Seeing people happy peaceful and gentle... It's the most uncomfortable thing for a narcissist to see in you if not careful they can destroy your self worth.... There's a day I cried 5 hrs nonstop God knows.

I’m going to take a wild 😜 guess: 1-the truth, 2- being told “no”, 3-boundaries, 4-being ignored, 5-loss of power, 6-loss of control, 7-loss of image/reputation

My Mom's a vicious narc. Only realized it over the past few years. She's never apologized for anything she's done and cleverly uses words like 'You're not being part of a kind and loving family' when she doesn't get her way. Sadly or happily I've gone grey with her. As a result quality of my other relationships has improved massively. Learning to say NO to your primary relationships gives you all sorts of power you never thought you had.

The narcissist can take pleasure in the exercise of power over and subjugation of others, but they can't feel happiness or higher level emotions the way normal people do from any source if it's not about them or to their advantage. They can't feel the joy of a loving relationship – they're incapable of love. Starve them of our attention and submission and they lose their power over us. Good points, thanks Richard xx 💖

My husband's youngest sister is a full-blown narcissist. I used to think that she was just a spoiled brat who threw adult temper tantrums. But a few years ago I discovered narcissistic abuse and realized that this is what I've been dealing with all these years. Today's video covered something I didn't know regarding #4 as it relates to my sister-in-law. My husband called her recently about something she clearly did "wrong" and oh boy did she come unglued. Not only did she refuse to apologize, but she blamed me for what SHE did wrong. I could hear her yelling over the phone and I just thought that she must be drunk. But after watching this video, I realize that my husband hit on her "narcissistic rage" because she didn't sound drunk until he hit on a nerve ... and it was after that conversation with her that my husband wrote his sister a note and told her we're going no contact with her. That was 4 weeks ago, and so far all's quite. And we're enjoying our peaceful home. But that doesn't mean anything from her end. She's probably boiling mad, which is fine. She can stay mad on her side of the fence. Take care dear reader :)

The 7th point is so important, Richard. I figured that most of them are constantly in a negative state. Complaining (sometimes covertly) all the time and never being really happy. With my highly dysfunctional family I always had the sentence „Why can’t you be as unhappy as we are“ in mind. Thanks for your work. You helped me a lot during a really bad time. Keep it up ❤

NoContact is always telling them they were wrong...Thank You, GENIOUS!!👍✨😊

I am not a victim! I am a casualty!

I grew up in a great, happy two parent solid home. My narracist came into my life while I was going through a divorce and was vulnerable. I saw red flags, but because of his sob story I wanted to save him. I am now over 20 years in and it's been a rollercoaster ride of hell. I am now learning more tools to cope thanks to channels like this, spreading awareness of these demonic spirits. Some of us are just good empathetic people who want to help others, but these people are damaged beyond repair.

I worked for a narcissist for three years. I’m still recovering. She constantly didn’t respect my boundaries and when I would politely say no to things because I couldn’t do them due to policy. Every time it was an issue and a fit from her. She would constantly criticize me for any small mistake (a typo for example). If I ever corrected her, she would get incredibly upset. She was perfect and above criticism.

It’s startling how narcissists can be summed up so succinctly . It’s like a template. Yes maybe one or two traits differ between them but generally speaking….they are so predictable once you know what they are. It’s almost uncanny. I’m so surprised sometimes hearing you say things and I think to myself “that’s exactly what happened when I said no, or that’s how he reacted when I stated some facts that proved he was “incorrect”. He once tried to say I lied and he was trying to imply I was having or had an affair. I actually laughed and said, no you’re confused. That would be YOU lying and cheating. You can’t gas light me anymore. We weren’t living together but I did spend a lot of time at his place but that day, I walked away by sending him a text to say it’s over and I never went back. Not even to get my clothes, boots, shoes, coats, expensive hair dryer and straightener. I left all my personal effects like glasses and iPad, kitchen stuff. I didn’t try to ask to arrange a date to get it…..I didnt even want it. I think it got to him because many many months later a good friend ran into him and he told my friend he had a tough couple months (he was always acting like the world was out to get him…. Always a victim). My friend told me he looked terrible and almost didn’t recognize him because he lost so much weight. I used to be good supply (I eventually learned that through you and a few other videos like Dr. Carter) and I mean I was a pleaser and he would gaslight and ghost me for days, he pick my brain clean but would never tell me anything about the exact things he just asked of me. And of course, the info you shared comes back to you in a mean way, thrown in your face at a later date. I just unloaded, sorry. But it feels good. I know I still have work to do but I am so much stronger with my boundaries and my tool kit of spotting a narc from a mile away now. Thanks for the videos - really, they help a lot of people❤️

This is the best description of narcissistic abuse I ever heard

Thanks for the help, Richard. I feel mentally better after watching your videos. It's like letting fresh air in a room, filled with stale and toxic air. 👍

I had a birthday it was arranged by the narcissist looking at the photos looking back the narcissist looks unhappy with utter contempt in the photos

Your a born professor! Wise, direct, focussed and all 7 points match the truth. Thank-you Richard for sharing your insights at the blackboard🙏🏻⚘