How I found out my parents were siblings, and my life changed forever

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My Dad told me there are no “illegitimate children”, only illegitimate parents. Bless this woman…

When I found out that my dad wasn’t my biological father, a friend (who had a similar experience), told me something that I hold in my heart today. “There is your biological dad,” she said. “And then there is your logical dad. Your logical dad raised you with love, support, protection. He taught you how to be a good person, and how to be a good parent in turn. You were his daughter - nothing can change that. You are your Logical Dad’s much-loved daughter.” That was such a balm for my truly broken heart. I have one dad - that’s my logical dad. I love him, and miss him every day. ❤

The fact that her biological parents rejected her as an adult breaks my heart. They did not want to deal with the emotional issues they had caused her. What selfish cowards they were. I’m so glad she was blessed with a loving, adoptive family.

This woman is amazing and her story breaks my heart. I’m sad she didn’t have children - she would clearly have been a wonderful mother.

I hid childhood abuse from everyone, including my parents, for over thirty years. This led to me turning to alcohol to self medicate. I'm now 64, and both my parents have gone. I could never bring myself to tell them, which only left me in another battle it's only in the last couple of years that I have been able to speak to trusted people about it. With the help of someone from AA, I'm nearly 2 years sober 👍

As a "adopted person," you always wonder "why" you were given up for adoption. I can honestly say, "I am sooo blessed to have been adopted." Ive always known because my mother always told me, "you were chosen; we chose you and we love you dearly." There was always someone in their, "my parents' circle of friends" that would openly say, "well you know they adopted her?" I overheard that comment and I repeated what my mom would say, "I am chosen. My mommy and Daddy chose me and because they chose me, that makes me special." Ive always known i was dearly loved. RIP MOMMY AND DADDY

You did have the right to be angry . Your life was turned upside down . You are a good person

She didn’t mess up. No one should keep questioning women who don’t marry or have children.

This woman is incredibly brave to tell her story. I admire her.

How wonderful that she doesn’t have genetic issues. And looks like she was raised with love. How wonderful

Why do the children always feel the shame of what adults do? Bless her.

I just want to hug her. I can’t imagine the strength it took to carry such a secret.

Mental, spiritual, and emotional intelligence abounds within this remarkable women. One in a million.

My children were born in the 80’s through donor insemination, back then I was told to keep it a secret from everyone, especially my children. My husband and I went against this advise and spoke quite openly to our children from a very young age about how they were conceived. I spoke to them about finding their biological father but they have no interest in doing so, if they ever change their mind we’d be happy to help them. Secrets in families cause untold problems, be open and honest.

My heart aches for this sweet lady. Giving up a relationship and children the way she did, had to be beyond painful. Absolutely awful. God bless her.😢

I lost my Mum Dad and step Dad all within 7 months of each other in 2020. If I could bring just one back for the day it would be my step Dad every time. He was and still is my hero ❤

My mother was the result of an incestuous union between her mother and her mother's older brother. When I found out the truth at the age of 34, I felt like someone had punched me in the gut. I cried a lot during those first few days afterward, but what can you do? They were dead and gone by then. I haven't openly shared this information because I can't imagine people wouldn't look at me differently.

I'm so sorry that she felt shame. She had done nothing wrong!

This genuinely affected me deeply. I felt instantly so compassionate for Theresa, having had to go through what she did alone without anyone to support her emotionally for so many years. I don’t think I’ll ever forget her bravery. She is such a lovely person in every way. I also felt physically sick, almost immediately upon hearing her story, but not because of her background but rather because of the burden she carried for so long. She is a beautiful person, and she has blessed so many by sharing her story.